Relationships, And How Communication Is Vital.

Many get into relationships (friendships, intimate, familial) and when they're asked why or why they want to to pursue marriage, they say they're in love. Lol. Love won't make any form of relationship stable nor will it last. If there's no common ground that both parties strongly agree with, it's tough sledding from there on out. It is good to form relationships with people before making a desirous commitment to help aid development in one's Personality. Another purpose is to is to get to know the opposite or Similar sex and learn to relate to them as persons. If we fail to learn are of building a wholesome relationship, immediately we have limited our horizons considerably. Which is why those that never associate with others or date many others before committing to one person usually fail. As we relate to others in relationships, we begin to see various personality traits exhibited. This provokes healthy self analysis that brings greater self understanding. We recognize some traits are more desirable than others. We come to see our own strengths and weaknesses. The knowledge of weakness is the first step towards growth. We all have strengths and weaknesses in our personalities. None of us is perfect. More so, imperfection is perfection. Maturity is not flawlessness.No form of relationship can thrive and last without proper communication and compromise from both parties, willingly. If you're putting all the work and the other side is not responding accordingly, then they simply aren't intrigued in any manner whatsoever. Sad, but it's true. Moving on is best. You'll meet someone that will care for u as much as you do them. For a relationship to truly prosper, both need to have very serious common interests. If both really value what they've got, they'll give and take, equally. If something is bothering you, or there's something your partner or friend is doing, and you don't approve of but don't speak up, how do you expect to resolve the situation? How do you expect the other party to know there's something bothering you? Holding back and not speaking up just builds walls upon walls, until both cannot see eye to eye anymore and resort to splitting up. Those walls can be taken down, if both partners are willing to talk things through and compromise, step by step, without criminalizing the partner and taking blame for their wrongdoing. Projecting ask assuming they might feel the same for you, will lead nowhere and just yield the same result:rejection. Many relationships fail 'cause they use "love" as justification to be together, yet there's no solid ground/foundation to build upon. No self reflection.

Here's an example:

husband always leaves the cabinets open, and this bothers his wife.

the wife nicely confronts him, to no avail.

niece visits home and hurts head on open cabinet. By now the wife assumes the husband will close the cabinets. He tells her he just forgets.

the wife comes home and sees the cabinets open, and inside she rages. She contemplates creating a huge argument that would lead to more problems, which would lead to no contact and maybe a split up. It's an rip affect.

instead, the wife assumes the responsibility of closing the cabinets and accepts her husband as is. In turn, they avoided an argument, and she came to love him more.

Relationships are all about willingness to compromise, if you believe the benefits outweigh the costs.