Why you should refrain from quarreling in front of children

in steemiteducation •  7 years ago  (edited)

When you become a parent, you are overwhelmed with both happiness and worry. A child is a blessing, but it takes huge responsibly to raise these tiny beings. As parents we often make many mistakes, this is normal, but it best to be prepared to try to avoid some of the obstacles. It all starts at home, and as a parent one of your very first tasks is to set the correct example and to create a living environment for your child where they can thrive.


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One of the biggest mistakes parents make is to quarrel with their partners in front of their children. This is not only a bad example to set, but it also has a negative impact on the development of a child and can hinder their ability to learn and do well at school.

If there are frequent quarrels between parents and caregivers, a child is likely to experience a great psychological shock and he or she will be left feeling disturbed and fragile, influences that deter learning and general brain development.

According to Henny Eunike Wirawan, a child who often sees his parents quarrel, doubts the happiness and peace promised in marital bonds. These children tend to be more insecure individuals. [Source](http://magazine.orami.co.id/pertengkaran-orang- tua-dan -impact-against-psychology-child /)

While parenting is often learnt through trial and error, we need to remember that each step we take shapes the lives of our younger generations. While quarrels arise, it is best to have such discussions with your partners behind doors, not in front of children. If you must quarrel in front of children, do so calmly and respectfully, always with a sincere apology at the end.

I hope this post is not just informative for you, but acts as a little reminder of just how supple and fragile our children’s minds are.


Best regards @albuluhi

This post has been edited by a member of the @blue-pencil team


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Be a good parent for the future of our child.

Thank you

Good post 👍

Yes, arguing both parents in front of their child causes psychological disorders in children. thanks for sharing @albuluhi

Thank you for allowing a member of the @blue-pencil team to edit this post for you.

I truly agree with you, arguing or quarelling in the presence of your children goes a long way to affect the children psychologically. They begin to have this sense of insecurity.

Very good post.

I agree that we should try really hard to not argue in front of our kids. While I don't want my son to think that it's wrong to argue, because that's a part of most relationships, I don't want him hearing things that could be said out of anger. The hubs and I keep our arguments over the phone, where my son can't hear. If we disagree while in the presence of our son, we will allow him to see us work it out while talking, but if it gets too heated, we will just hold off and go do something else until we have cooled down.

I I agree with you if parents did fight infront of children, they must ensure that everything is right and that mom and dad are still loves each other