Wow! This is amazingly simple. If my girlfriend used this on me I’d be a lot less upset with her when I forgot something. “Steven, the pantry door is open.” Bam! I’d close the door with no upset, no resistance. You didn’t say it, but at least for me, it’s important not to directly connect me to the action requested. “Steven, you left the door open.” Would bring about a defensive response because my conditioning would have me interpret that phrasing as an accusation. Then I go into protection mode.

I’m going to share this with her tonight.