To decide to become sexually active is a huge step in most people's lives. Some people want to wait for 'the one', some want to wait until they are married and some want to make it special.
No matter what your outlook is on this, there one thing that is very important and that is it must be a consenting act, which means you must do it out of free will but you must also be 'of age'. You cannot consent to it if according to the law of your country, you are not seen as a 'consenting adult.'
Laws differ from country to country but it is mostly between 16-18 years of age.
The reason why there is an age restriction is so that people do not take advantage of kids that are emotionally not ready to make such huge decisions. There is a minimum age in the law where it is seen as a huge offence if a child under a certain age is taking part in sexual activities.
Remember that nobody has the right to force you past a certain point. It is your body and you may say "No"at any time. Beware of people who want to try and force you or coax you to do what they want, they are doing it for selfish reasons and not because they care.
If you are the one who wants sex but your partner does not want to agree to it, you MUST respect their decision. There are many reasons why people do not want to consent and it is not your place to try and change your mind, no matter how much you want it.
Consensual sex means that both agree to it and feels happy and safe, but it does not mean that it is legal. Even if you agree and are under age you are legally not in the position to give consent legally.
A person must also be capable to give consent, which means if they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol and even if they are eager, legally they are not capable to give consent.
This means that if you have sex with a person under the legal age or under the influence, they or their parents can still open a criminal case against you and it will be considered sexual assault or rape.
Do not let you hormones decide for you.... USE YOUR HEAD.
Do not just decide to have sex because you friends does it, be sure that YOU are ready, and there is no age or time limit for when that must be. You must feel comfortable and it must be your decision.
Sometimes you think you are ready, but ask yourself if you will be able to deal with it if that person leaves you and you have to accept it that you had sex with him/her. Unfortunately there are boys and girls that do not care about your emotions, they just want sex and then dump you and most probably tell their friends.
Think about this and then make a decision and if your partner does not want to accept your decision, it is a sign that they do not care about you, but only themselves.
Remember the following
- only you can make that decision
- 'No means no' and nobody have the right to force you to make another decision
- are you aware of the law and what the consenting age of your country is?
- if you decide to consent, make sure that you are safe
- if you are not ready, it is fine, there is no rush
- if your partner respects you, they will accept your decision
It is somehow difficult for teens to control their upcoming hurge for sex especially if their is no proper guidance . that is why every parents need to perform their duties on their children right from childhood to know what is good and bad for them.
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