THE SECRET To Gain Self-Confidence - You may not like it

We are adults. The fears accompany us, we feel that the lack of confidence stops us.

Some will say that they drag traumas from their childhood. Bad things happened, that's for sure. But life is so. You have to take off with traumas, disappointments and everything.

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It is common to find in social networks messages full of affection and good intentions to motivate those who are waiting for magic to help them.

That does not exist. With pats on the back followed by nice words, they make the formula to stay in mediocrity.

Security is not what will make you achieve what you set out to do. Whether or not you have confidence in yourself, the work dedicated to what you are looking for is what counts.

Do you know why life is not a game? Because unlike what happens in a game room, that people laugh when they lose, in life, steemian friend, losing does not amuse anyone.

We want to overcome the lack of confidence, preparing ourselves.

Make sure everything is perfect before you start, study, rehearse, take care of the details.

It's fine, perfect. Only that is another way to fail.

Surely you have heard "knowledge is power".

It may be a lie. The only knowledge that has any value, is the one that you apply.

If you do not put it into practice, what you learned is worth nothing, what you rehearsed is worthless. There were thousands of hours of preparation wasted.

This is how you get to the grave and what you get are some farewell tears.

What will make you leave below is to take action.

It is wonderful to discover that action defeats the phantom of fears.

Stand in front of an audience. Your hands are sweating, your body trembles, your voice is bankrupt, your mind is confused. You want to be away from there, everything's over. It is hateful to feel the adrenaline fluttering throughout your body.

But as soon as you start your first words, in a minute the value catches you. You achieved it, you have overcome it, yes, to that fear that convinces the cowards to live in misery.

Now, friend steemian, you do not want to leave the platform, the minutes fly, the security covers you and you feel powerful. Enjoy your minutes of fame, you earned it.

A few minutes ago you were a nobody, and now, you're being cheered by an audience you've just met, they applaud you and it's wonderful.

Unforgettable.

You know what? What brought you to that unforgettable moment, was not the confidence in yourself, it was the action.

Taking the first step is what will defeat your lack of confidence.

Another point that I want to highlight is that if you try as many times as necessary, you will succeed. Why? It's a matter of statistics.

The more you do it, the more times you fail, and also, the more times you will succeed.

Try throwing a dart at a target.

If you try a couple of times, it is likely that you hit the wall.

You failed. Do you feel a failure?

If you limit yourself to that couple of attempts, of course. You would be a loser.

Now, if you pick up those darts and throw them as many times as they need to hit the target, it's a matter of time before you succeed.

What determines success is not the number of failures, it is the times you hit the target. Nobody, I repeat, nobody counts the times you failed if you hit the target, even if it's your last shot.

That's why the winners are infallible when they have the gold medal on their neck.

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No one looks for the long and tortuous road they had to travel.

You go to a casino, play and lose. Nobody will remember you. But if you insist on taking the big prize, you will be famous and you will feel at the top.

If you try to climb Everest and you come back a meter from the top, you will go into oblivion. You will only be among the greats if you crown it with your flag.

You already understood my point.

Action defeats fear.

The action does not need your confidence to work.

Those who stay in the preparation and waiting for everything to be perfect to start, good trip, towards failure.

You will only be mediocre if you surrender. It is mandatory to reach the end.

This time I write you without soft words, which motivate for the time it takes to read.

I hope you have created an effect on you. Life does not go with cariñitos and kind words.

Do what you have to do to make your life change, so that it is as you want.

It's not about you going to get what you deserve, actually, friend, you're going to get what you think you deserve.

That's the way things are, that's life.

Thomas Flores greets you, and I wait for you in my next post.

Happy day.