Self Destruction, a Social Suicide or a Literal Suicide?

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Depression has become a trending in Social Media last week, after a host of a variety show commented about it and seems misinterpret the real meaning. Depression is a serious case. I am no psychologists or psychiatrist that will talk about it completely. For this writing, I will just be a person that observe how depression ruin a person's life but it can be controlled. Please correct my understanding if I made a mistake.

Self destruction, the way for a person to hurt themselves or ruin something about themselves after they realized they fail on something or been rejected. Why do I know this? I saw this with my friends. How can it happen, please read my example below.

One of my friends gave someone a love letter. She is a girl. She thinks she's in love with a guy at work. She asked me some advises before doing that. I said that it is not bad to be honest with your feelings and then I found out that she already gave him a letter. The guy already have a girlfriend. She can't be with her anymore because he is taken. She felt rejected. Instead of moving on, her way to cope up with things was to dyed her hair green, have a pierced lip and a dark lipstick. Everyone noticed her big change. For me, it is quite obvious that she misunderstood everything but I cannot blame her from doing that. As a friend, if only I know that she will be doing that, I will do my best to stop her, but how can I really help her if that is her way of coping and moving on, according to her.

She ruin herself and that is her way of moving on. I see different things. I think she ruin herself because she wants everyone's attention to know how hard it is for her to be rejected, or maybe she is doing that for a specific person. To make that person to feel guilty about it. If only she get the best interpretation she will realize changing herself differently and not properly from what she was before is the worst move she ever done. Why? She doesn't look decent and she knows it, I told her. She doesn't mind. She said she is happy from what she become. I don't get it.

I feel that she is more of putting herself down. There is a part of her that can't accept the rejection, regardless how she denies it. You cannot tell yourself it is okay and do things differently. The first move to moving on is Acceptance. With Acceptance, you are aware that you are hurt by the situation, that you need to cry, to pour it all out. If you need to scream, then scream. You need to talk with someone and not lock yourself in one room. If you really want to lock yourself and be alone, just make the most out of it and use it to reflect about what happen. Remember, bad things happen even to good people. No one says it will be easy. You just need to accept, be aware and find out your way of moving on.

I read some articles about it. It could happen to anyone. It could happen even to the slightest, narrowest and shallowest things. It depends on how you view things, especially if bad things happen to you. You just need a deepest understanding that life is sometimes not in favor on how you plan for your life. You could consider it as a challenge and win the game next time but some people goes the other way. They destruct themselves, ruin it as a form of protest.

What are the obvious forms of Self-Destruction?

If they feel bad, they will not eat. They will starve themselves. As a result, they became acidic.
Someone will cry over a broken heart. It is normal because you are hurt. Literally after that you will lots of migraines and swollen eyes. It is hard to look at everything when your eyes are in pain.
You have eating disorder, became addicted to alcohol and drugs.
You do things that could harm yourself by putting yourself to be injured, or self-inflicted harm.
Some became drug addicts or sexual addicts.

It is their form of revenge, but they do not receive any benefits from it. They make the feeling of depression to be for long. This is the reason why I observed, they misunderstood everything. They just felt that they need to do it just to release something inside them. They always think, this is the best revenge and the only way.

What do we need to do to help them?

Since we realize that most of them are getting our attention, our role is to be on their side. We need to understand what they are going through and guide them on the right path. We need to help them for it to be stop. We don't need to wait till someone hurt themselves, to make it worst, to take their lives. We don't need to wait for that to happen to realize someone is needing our help. When we already realized it is happening on someone, we need to take their hands and hold it tight. People need people, no one is an Island. We are all responsible from everything that is happening around us. We just need to open our eyes and be the person that they need.

Don't let this to happen. Stop this from happening. Everyone could save everyone. We just need you to be willing.