This is Part 2 in a series called “Be Your Best.”
In the first post of this series, we talked about “Good: The Enemy of Best!” Well, in order to leave “good,” there needs to be a catalyst for you to find something different. Something has to change for you to be willing to leave. If “good” is good enough, you will stay right where you are.
Dissatisfaction
Before there can be a change, you must be dissatisfied with where you’re at. Sometimes a change in your circumstances triggers grumbling or complaining. I’ve seen it many times at different jobs. The company will get purchased or new management will come in, and they’ll change things. While people previously had more freedom, flexibly, and money, now they have restrictions and pay cuts. And they complain... but they keep working the same job, just adjusting to the new, harsher conditions. And did I mention, complaining?
Cry Out
When you become dissatisfied enough and can’t take it anymore, you will cry out for change. It could be to yourself: just crying out inside your head, or even out loud. It could be to your spouse, family or friends. It could be to God, or whomever you worship/follow spiritually. Whoever you cry out to for help, it can’t just be grumbling; it has to be a truly life-changing determination that things in your life MUST be different. They HAVE to change, because you can no longer live with how things have been. That's when you’re ready to move on!
This Guy is READY to Move On!
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You have to leave your current state behind so you can move on to something else. And often you won’t be ready to leave until you’re so dissatisfied that you refuse to stay in your current situation. You will begin to “pack your bags” and get ready for the journey. Maybe it begins emotionally, maybe you actually start throwing things into boxes, but you begin preparing to leave.
Sewage Treatment
I had a friend who lived in a basement apartment of a house. During the summer it was always cool in his place, but during the winter it was downright gloomy and frigid. He didn’t really like the place and the rent was a little too high. The people upstairs also played the piano and would keep him awake sometimes. The appliances weren’t serviced before he moved in, so they didn’t work right. He ended up being without a working heater for over 2 weeks in the middle of winter because the heater broke. (Yes, that’s illegal!) Yet, he still wouldn’t move! He didn't want to be bothered.
Then, "the change" happened...
The house had been built by the owners who lived upstairs, so not everything was strictly up-to-code. They had built the drain field improperly, so when the house settled, the water would get caught on the way to the septic tank. (For those of you who have sewer systems, a septic tank is a big tank in the ground where the waste water from a house goes when it leaves your sink, toilet, or shower. You probably could have guessed, but didn’t want anyone wondering.)
Don't Let Your House Look Like This
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Apparently, one day while he was getting ready to leave for work he noticed there was water on the floor. The septic system had backed up and any waste water from his unit and the house above was flooding out his toilet and into his entire house. Yes, POOP WATER was covering his floor!
He decided to move out and due to the repairs that were needed, he was able to break his contract. He was gone shortly thereafter. The point is, he wasn’t ready to go to the hassle of moving until there was poop water on his stuff! That was what it took!
Your Cry
If possible, don't wait until there's sewage flooding your house before making the decision to move on from something toxic. If you don't, that’s OK too. It's your choice. No one can make you move on until you’re ready to “Cry Out” for change. However, getting fed up with a bad situation sooner-than-later could save you from a bit pain.
Thanks for reading.
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Note: Not life advice. The ideas presented here are for informational/entertainment purposes only. Do your own research. Make your own decisions. Use Wisdom if it’s available, common sense if it’s not. Seek counsel from trusted advisers if you so desire. Again, your choices are your own.
there is no problem that there is no solution in this world .. not crying or shouting is not solutions according to me .. but i agree with move place maybe one way overcome it. I agree only thank @themanwithnoname
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I don't quite follow, but I think you're trying to say that it's important not to lose your temper when difficulties come and begin to move us from apathy. It's helpful to keep your temper and think clearly if possible. It will help you make more rational, informed decisions.
For the record, I'm @themanwithnoNAME. Although I don't technically have a MANE, the lack of NAME is more what I focus on. Ha ha. ;)
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sorry maybe i'm a bit wrong in typing ... sorry mr. @themanwithnoname
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No worries, man. Just wanted to see where you were coming from. :)
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Recently i commented on someone else's post.
I believe this post answers it. The break up is the poop on the floor which forces you out of your comfort zone and into an adventure of some sort
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Exactly. There has to be something that causes the adventure to begin. Otherwise, the person would stay where they're at. Think about Lord of the Rings: The Hobbit. If Bilbo hadn't had dwarves show up at his doorstep, he never would have left the Shire. It took someone (Gandalf) to move him from where he was at.
I'm glad the post resonated with you. Thanks for commenting.
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I think the man cried out rather too late, and that poop experience was a hell of an experience
However, He may also claim to have an enduring virtue of long suffering which I do not envy anyway.
He may also have been just too lazy and tired to do the needful. Yes, some people can just detrimentally lazy.
Summary is: where ever is ones dissatisfaction limit, one cries out!
Thanks @themanwithnoname for the beautiful post
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Yes, that was a little late. He's a patient person anyway, but he probably got even more out of the experience. People definitely can be detrimentally lazy, but I don't think that was the case. Some people are just too nice. It took something drastic to get him out.
That's a nice summary! I'm glad it was meaningful for you.
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I do agree with you.
Thanks.
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He must have a lot of patience, for me the move was more of a need for my son and his new family, the benefit, we all stay on the same property, as in my country South Africa, there is a lot to cry out about, the best is to adapt, but you can live your life to make it better. Cool story, makes me wonder how much poop do you have to take to make a decision.
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That's nice that you're able to live close to your son. On the same property counts as close. ;)
I have friends who live in South Africa and you're correct, there's a lot to cry out about. They have to just keep adapting to the circumstances, but the change normally isn't for the good.
Are you asking rhetorically for anyone? Asking or yourself, or asking for me?
For me, it normally takes a a bit. I don't like to just get upset and leave. I like building things and if you don't stick around, you'll have a hard time seeing things grow. That being said, I also try to be aware of the situation and if it's not going to get better, I try to get out before things blow up. How about you?
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