The weak are generally irritable and vulnerable to fury. The strong are usually calm and watery and relatively peaceful. A person with a weak inner heart is naturally not calm enough. People who are not calm inside are full of storms. Anything smaller will be infinitely enlarged. A person with a weak inner heart will always lack a sense of security.
Being not strong enough means that it is easily influenced by the outside world and usually manifests itself as either paying special attention to the opinions of others or living in the eyes of others. As a result, she lost her ability to judge independently, became unstable and restless.
To become a person with a strong heart, you need to have at least the following six qualities:
1) High self-discipline and self-immolation
2) Must experience despair
3) Ability to cultivate solitude
4) Unlimited thinking
5) A belief
6) BE YOURSELF (do yourself)
1. Highly self-disciplined and self-black
Why not say confidence? People who are not self-confident are generally weak at heart. A confident person is full of confidence in himself and always works with positive energy and is always full of passion. All blind self-confidence and fasting self-confidence are self-righteous. There must be real knowledge in the heart, even if it is a continuous trial and error, but it will eventually reach the peak of the climb.
Where does the self-confidence come from? And how to cultivate your self-confidence? A high degree of self-confidence comes from a high degree of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline means managing yourself and restraining yourself. This is an important ability. Learn to restrain yourself first, use a strict schedule to control life, in order to continue to hone confidence in this self-discipline. Self-confidence also represents the ability to control things. Even the most basic time cannot be controlled, how confident?
In addition to self-discipline, the ability to self-confidence is also very important. The world is big, what birds have. Waiting for you to do something a little bit on the day, many people who know or don't know are behind you. From the beginning of the Tucao to the statement out of context or even boring black you.
Since the black is ridiculing himself, he himself black humor. Since the black is a kind of communication method, it is also a realm, it is an alternative kind of cultivation. Black does not appear until someone says you, but it needs all the power from start to finish. You must see those boring and vulgar people, and they will be better at black than they are. After they know they are not interested, they will embarrass themselves and leave.
2. Must experience despair
The meaning of experiencing despair is that we have already passed through this period of time. Maybe you have not been desperate, it does not mean you are not strong, but people who have never experienced despair are strong. A life that is not desperate is an imperfect life. Desperation may be emotion, career, or loneliness that cannot be faced.
"Must" is a prefix, an important status. "Must" is not an active choice, but rather a full psychological preparation. When desperation comes, accept it without fear, even if it is extremely painful, even loses self. Looking for hope in despair is a life worth experiencing.
Strong people are not conquering anything but what they can afford. Some things, only experienced, can understand the truth, and understand the true meaning of life. Desperation is not terrible. It is terrible to lose courage and passion. Experience despair, but don't be desperate. On the contrary, you have to overcome it, as it is to overcome the darkness and meet the light.
3. Ability to cultivate solitude
Loneliness and solitude are not one thing, they are two things and they are often confused. People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but they neglect solitude and ability, and in a certain sense, are more important than communication. If it is a weakness of personality to say that it is not good to communicate, then it is simply a defect of the soul.
To endure loneliness, do not drift. Lonely is a person's carnival, a carnival is a group of people alone. The so-called maturity is that the longer you grow, the better you can learn to adapt to everything. In the time alone, find what you truly love and cultivate your own independent judgment.
Only by learning to love oneself first, can one have the ability to love others? If you do not learn to talk to yourself, it will be more difficult to communicate with others. The more people who are able to live alone, the more they can face and understand the predicament, the more they can get along with others. Because you can instantly think about empathy, you can better place yourself for the sake of the other side.
4. Unlimited thinking
Your vision is farther than others, and your heart is wider than others. Every day in a life, the future will be calculated sooner or later. In addition, it also lives in a variety of careful eyes and small patterns.
Life is like driving a car. When you are 30 yards faster than others, the feeling you experience is not perceived by others. Life is like flying a plane. When you are 30,000 feet taller than others, the vision you see is naturally different from others. This means that when you are pursuing higher and further beauty, you don't have to care about other people's short-sighted eyes. All natural clouds are light and no longer affected.
After being broad, it will not be bound by narrow-minded. After freedom, it will not be subject to formalism.
5. Need a belief
People are too limited. No matter what you believe in, you always have a faith. Otherwise, there is no difference with animals.
In this era, almost everyone has faith, but their own beliefs are different. Some people believe in power, others believe in money, some belief in self, some belief in love, some believe in happiness, some believe in food, some believe in a party, some believe in belief, some believe in atheism, some believe in God, some believe in God, and some believe in Christ. ......
No matter what kind of beliefs are worthy of respect, and any belief needs to be thoroughly understood and believed, it can be called faith. Any kind of belief, if it is a confusing letter, is not faith, it belongs to superstition, all religious beliefs including Christianity.
Wisdom and truth have a distance between heaven and earth. Learning to long for truth is better than pursuing wisdom. The truth can make people wiser to look at things in the world, tolerance is the attitude of the face of complex relationships, unwavering belief in running the road of life, calm and quiet face of human darkness and tragedy of the world.
6. BE YOURSELF (do yourself)
JUST BE YOURSELF. Don't try to please everyone. You can't do it now. You can't do it in the future.
People cannot be exhaustive. Everyone should have the people that they care about most. They are the most precious wealth in your life. If they have misunderstood or questioned what you have done, it is worth taking the time to respond and explain.
The following are the three types of groups that individuals care about most. Only for reference: 1. Family members (relatives are not counted, see only once a year, it is not clear what your life orientation is); 2. Life confidants (only a few true friends), everything is known to know the roots; 3. Pastors or mentors (spiritual mentors, and senior leaders in the workplace).
Their comments/opinions/suggestions will be carefully listened to. If there is no understanding, it will be fully explained and responded. Only people who really care about know you relatively well, most of them are one-sided cognition. There is no special intersection in life. There are only hearsay or just a few reasons.
You don't have to respond to familiar strangers. They don't necessarily care about you. They are just more curious about your baby. Time is so precious that it takes no account of these, nor is it an obligation of interpretation. Your life does not need to live in the words of others, there are many more important things waiting to be done.
People with strong hearts rarely care about the opinions of others, including familiar strangers. Just as positive people rarely pay attention to negative information, even if they see it, they are automatically blocked or digested. They are very clear about their positioning and pursuit.
Obstacles are encountered and every effort will be made to eradicate it. Having encountered setbacks, it is not easy to give up. Having overcome difficulties, you have power. If you solve the problem, you have wisdom. Walking out of darkness, I have hope. For them, these are just the only way of life.
Those who truly have a strong heart must have a calm heart, a gentle heart, and a wise mind. Must have experienced storms, experienced high mountains and low valleys, but also seen life. We hope that on the road of our lives, no matter what kind of circumstances can be filled with wisdom, strong courage, and become powerful people inside.
