Thank you for sharing this story. I strongly feel like your husband should have taken control. Even though it's his brother, there comes a time where the line is crossed. When you help people, try not to expect anything in return so the hurt wont be as much when they treat you differently. Also strong minds never fail, if you can sit down with your husband and tell him to take charge in your marriage, I guarantee he will. I'm sure he loves you as well and you will get through to him... but your job is to always stay positive about situations like this. If you think negatively it will happen negatively. But if you think that this is another barrier to get through you will achieve positive results!