Why Being a Doer Sometimes Goes Against You

According to me, all sorts of people mainly fall in two major categories: doers and thinkers. Doers are those who not only think but take action too and thinkers as the name suggests mainly think only.

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To live a good life, in whatever way you define it, being a thinker and a doer is equally important. You need to think big and positive, realistic mostly and then take meaningful actions towards what you believe in and want to manifest to actually objectify it. Unless you are a doer, you cannot fulfill your goals, achieve great things or even survive in this life.

While being a doer is amazing and empowering, I know that because I am one, sometimes this superpower goes against you as well. I fell in love with a guy who wasn’t a doer at all but nonetheless I got attracted to him and was drawn to him like ants are drawn to a sugary treat. I am still drawn to him and love him deep down- no denying that. I did lots of stuff for him and his happiness which I won’t go in the details of now and have no regrets about that. Then we got married after about 4 years of courtship and have been married since the past 4 and a half years and have a beautiful kid together- a 3.5 year old amazing boy.

Although life is good and I’m doing well, my husband isn’t. Since he is just a thinker and not a doer, he hardly takes any action towards anything really and this is now going against me. His inner demons mainly anxiety and negative thoughts are so big that they keep him from struggling and make sure he gives in to the negativity rooted inside him. Because I am a doer, I cannot just lie around and let my life go to waste. I had the option of not working, not taking care of the house and then working less and not challenging my potential, but I didn’t take those roads. Instead, I kept pushing myself harder and moving forward because I knew if I stopped, my life would end and I could somehow see myself as dead but couldn’t envisage the same for my husband and son.

I fight obstacles daily, work like a horse every single day, sleep less than them both and go beyond my strength to make sure I don’t just become a thinker and can one day inspire my husband to become a doer too and fight his inner demons harder. Although being a doer is great, sometimes I do feel I need to rest more, relax more and stop worrying incessantly about everyone else which is why I feel sometimes and only sometimes, being a doer goes against you. That being said, it does make you a fighter and I’m proud to be one.

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