I’d love some feedback and ideas, and that’s the purpose of this post.
Context
For the past 3 months I’ve been working on a translation of the I Ching, the ancient Book of Changes.
Each week I work on one of the 64 sections of the text, with daily translation and contemplation/embodiment of the commentaries contained within each section.
It’s been an interesting experience, and has heightened my understanding of ancient Chinese Philosophy and improved my skills at reading ancient Chinese.
Mistrust
Today’s meditation has been challenging, in that I’ve been forced to contemplate the moments in my life where a sense of insecurity has led me to withdraw from other people.
I realise that this is the first time that I’ve considered this aspect of my life, my attention has never really be drawn to it before.
And I admit to feeling somewhat perturbed by it. It’s one of those things where you realise there have been moments in the past where you’ve really fucked up and treated others poorly.
So my question is:
How do you deal with insecurities?
Do you ignore them?
Do you explore their root?
Do you suppress the feeling and soldier on?
Do you talk about it, if so with whom?
What do you do? I’d love it if you could share something about your experiences in the comments.
Thanks in advance,
🤗🙏🏽☯️
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Anxiety is a weird thing. Never assume the person in front of you is not fighting some kind of battle while talking to you. Our jobs as humans interacting with each other are to treat the person as you would like to be treated no matter who/what/how much that person has.
I find the strongest people have tons of anxiety......why do you think they are so strong? Same goes for the people that laugh the most are usually the ones that need laughter in their lives.
We all deal with anxiety in our own way. From sitting in a certain place in a restaurant to deep breathing when you need to and finding a way in a polite fashion to get out of the place you are in and into some fresh air.
People are people and just want calm and peace just as we all do.
I had a friend that told me a story.
He was meeting a potential client at the client's house. The man owned a HUGE expensive house. On the way to the door, he saw two men that looked like workers eating lunch on the lawn. He walked over to say 'hello' and ask the whereabouts of the man who owned the house. He was very polite.
My friend was told the man they were looking for they had just found. He was then asked if he would care for some lunch as there was plenty. In his expensive suit, he sat down and made a friend and client for life.
The bottom line of my book I just wrote you is treat people with respect at all times. You never really know what they are dealing with at that time.
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I’d never thought of this, I guess that’s true.
Thanks for your comment 😊🙏🏽💜
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I go into tailspins. I get super anxious. I withdraw. I FEEL COMPLETELY. And then I explore where they're coming from, analyse them, talk about them with my husband (who reassures me, and I think, well, of course you love me, you're my husband!) and then go through self analysis until I can figure out a way to conquer them - until they raise their head again. Buddha and Mara, every time, the best lesson. Tea with the demons. Self compassion.
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Tea with demons. Love it!
Is there any consistent strategies you’ve discovered, or is it always different dependent on context?
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I should clarify something in all of this, having contemplated further.
I realised I wrote that I’ve treated others poorly in the past... but what I mean by that is that I’ve created stories in my head that have then influenced my behaviour. That caused me to feel insecure and actually withdraw from some friendships.
I’m wondering now what would’ve been different had I spoken about my insecurities with those friends... would they have supported me?
The mistrust came about because I didn’t seek ‘fellowship’ or union with others.
And that’s the message of this section of the text.
Honest communication is what creates harmony between people with common goals, even in the midst of diversity.
So I’m really interested in exploring this idea further.
Any thoughts, opinions?
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