Good morning steemians.
Time check now is 3:04 a.m.I slept ealy last night and six hours sleeping without disturbed made me feel better today but I feel so really bad when I read the message of one of my friend here justlike my aunt.
The story now is about her and her family. I curiously share this to the point of giving idea and lesson to everyone who has the same situation.
Before I came here in Jizan,I stayed in Jeddah for five years with my employer sister's now.I met a friend who was eight years older than me.She had a family there and one of their child was studying in Philippines.They were perfect happy family and I never thought this could be happened.
How its started?
My friend is domestic household helper working for three decades here starting at 19 yrs old.He met.a certain aircon technician who became her husband.They got married here with the help of her employer and the second wedding happened in her hometown.They have two daughter,one was with her before and one was studying ith.the care of her sister.They owned a house and a car.In one word,they are an ideal and almost perfect family.
Last 2012,her daughter graduated cum laude taking Nursing in San Beda and now became a licensed nurse and her youngest daughter taking up Accountancy had just finished her study last May.Her youngest daughter was studying here in Saudi from elementary to high school.Studying in college for the expatriate is prohibited by the government so she was forced to study in.our homeland.
The year 2018,couple are still here working but the devastation had just started after a 26 years of marriage she thought.I.never never thought that this could happened to my friend.
Last March they decided to spent vacation to attend the graduation.of their youngest daughter.My friend stay there for 45 days nd her husband decided to stay for 60 days.My friend returned here without hesitation and felt everything was alright.Her.husband showed love and compassion to both their daughter and her.Her husband hugged her during her departure in NAIA.No worries....believing so in love to her first love husband.
Their home is located in Bulacan while her husband is in another place nearby.Her province is located in Abra but their love nest.is located in Bulacan.
When.my friend is.already here,her husband asked permission to their daughters and even to my friend via video calling that he would be visiting his brothers and sisters there.He had no parent anymore. Their daughter allowed him to go without thinking any fouled play.They trust and love him eversince they saw the world.He leave behind his re-entry visa papers to.his daughter but he brought the passport with him.
The Day had Come
The dy supposed to be the departure of their dad came along,daughters were waiting but nobody came on that day.He had no Philippines mobile number and his Saudi number which he used was closed.They felt so worry and they tried to reached out their nearest relatives and nowhere to find a news about their daddy.They were all crying and my friend who.had just arrived two weeks ago wanted to go back home again to comfort her daughters.
While her husband was still missing,he cleaned their rented house here where they leave for almost 30 years.Accidentally,she found a receipt of the bank and papers from the company telling that her husband got his.benefits without her knowing,without telling her.What a stupidity he did!My friend could not believed it.He got a million and hide it from her?
Looking back a while,her husband lost his job before,who gave him shelter and food?My friend employer helped her husband.got a good company.Who cooked his food ready for one week during.my friends.two days day off? For almost 30 years she did it for love to her husband.When he was sicked,my friend took all her responsibility.And now?he left them behind.She cried a lot now.She is a good wife a mother and a friend but why it happened like these?
Lately,the family of her husband or her sister in law informed them that her husband is in Singapore with his first wife and only daughter with their new born grandchild.What a strong windstorm that passed to the life of my friend?My friend was a 19 years old single woman when her husband courted her.She never thought he had a first family because they attended their wedding.They went to the place of her husband when they were on vacation.My God I am also crying upon knowing the story.I cant hold on my tears dropping down.
Story behind her husband
Now her sister in law informed my friend that yes!her husband had first family but not to his girlfriend.Her husband was spending.vacation before they met each other on that the same year.Her husband was forced to got married the sister of his friend who was fully drunk on that time.He slept in.the house.of his friend and the sister slept with him in the room.When the parent of the girl woke up,they forced him to go right on the Municipal Hall for a civil wedding because the following other day he will be in his flight back here in Saudi.The girl got pregnant while his husband was here.The wife stayed with the.mother of his husband as well.
On that the same year,my friend met him,he was making aircon service.to the house of my friend's.employer and they knew each other.My friend was 20'yrs old and the man was 23.That was the beginning.of their acquaintances.It took almost a year.of courtship before she accepted her husband.From that time they seldom went to the Philippines.They bought a house in Bulacan for the only reason that his parent was already dead.and.it was supported by his siblings which was the valid reason why he trusted them all and of course to his husband whom he really loved.He abandoned his.first wife and child.But my friend learned a story that he was.always sending money for his daughter to his first.wife and graduated as teacher but.working now in Singapore and got married with an Indian national.Tomake it short,his husband was hiding it all for almost 3decades.from.the start of their marriage.
Recently,my friend husband visa had.already expired,no.hopes in returning here.And the latest hearache he did to my friend when my friend gave him 10k' Saudi Riyal last year to buy a new car so.could go to.his job with an.airconditioned car.Actually that money was.a gift.from the son of her employer tomy friend.But now.her husband left the car without.transferring to another person which make no validity if my friend will be going to sold it to others.
What I can.do.to.my friend.is to.advice her to keep.calm and consider her husband as already dead.Prayers.could make him stronger and live a happy life.the sake of hertwo daughters.Actually her youngest daughter had an reentry or open visa here in Saudi.Her employer loved.her daughter.and considered as their.daughter too.that's why they supported her visa and free fare to and pro(Philipines-Saudi visa yearly)
Tomorrow my friend daughter will be coming to.comfort her mother devastation.and trial in their life. I could not almost believed it.I.thought it happened just in a piece of movie and now I strongly believe that only in the movie has a positive ending.of a certain love story because.they could edit it to have a nice ending but real life story is different,it told us reality.
I shared this story,perhaps it could help to understand and dig up our feelings.To those family having.a husband or wife away from home,try to check the situation every now and then.Hwag po nating hayaan na ganito.ang mangyayari.Nangyayari ganito dahil sa kapabayaan ng bawat isa both first wife and second wife.Dahil.ang labis na ma aapektuhan.ay ang mga anak.
Ang.tiwala dapat igawad ngunit kailangan na porke nagtiwal ka na wala kang gagawing pag mamasid sa paligid dahil hindi.maitago sa panahong ito sobra sobra na ang mga kababalaghan.
Thank you for dropping by.
I hope we can take more lesson about this story.
My friend became so emotional everyday. I am so sorry and worry for her but I know she could handle.it right for her.daughters.
God bless us all
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Oo naman madsli takagang sabihin pero mahirap gawin makaharap ko lang sila at masabi konlhat lahat ngbkasamaan niya panloloko niyaxat pagsisinungaling pati pagtalikod sa mga anak ok na ako..at iipakita ko doon ba di akonkabiykt na 2 beses kaming nagoajasal at 25 years nagsama dto saSaudi at daming sinakripisyo ko sa kanya
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Yan.message friend ko copy paste ko.dito
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You told her sad story perfectly.. I am sorry for your friend that this happened to her. The only thing sxhe could do is to start her to start her life anew and consider her husband as dead because her family will never be the same again. I would say she should be strong to slowly adjust her marital status and begin to make a new life...she is still young so she still could find a new man .. now that her daughters have finished studying, it's time to think of her future..
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Thank you Inday for your support to.my friend.Dko halos mkatuo ako ang gisakitan kaayo.Mahal ng lalaki sila iwan.kung paano naging ganito?parang nawala sa,sarili ang lalaki,simulat sapol.c ate ang minahal niya kasama dalawa nilang anak.Ang pangit.ng ugali.ng unang asawa sabinng lahat mga kapatid ni kuya
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Sad story! What i can say God have plan for her. Just keep on praying!
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Opo sister @fhe bakit.naging ganito.ang.may kasalanan ang kuya talaga.
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Wow, now ko Lang na read and I read it aloud so hubby can hear. Prayer sent to your friend. Just comfort her to be strong and yeah, @mers is right...she must think her hubby is dedo na...then, start a new life. She must accept the unaccepted...
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Animel so much kaayo walsng puso
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Omaygdad Nay. Grabe man ang story. 😭 Haaaay sana maging okay yung friend mo Nay 😭
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Sana inday aim hindi.pa siya ok taaga.Sana mkalimutan na.niya.Kung salbahis lang friend ko ok lang,npakabait ehh..
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Grabe nasilaw sa pera
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Tama po inday
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Yung mga ganyang kaso kahit bumalik pa man yung asawa niya...the relationship will never be the same.. she should be strong and time will heal...mahirap pa ngayon makarecover siya kasi bago pa lang...pero isipin niya nakatapos na 2 anak niya.. niw dhe should think of beginning a new life..
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Please see my other comment.
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