I study programming and stuff and I think that when someone says the AI can become self aware is kinda wrong as we think it.I know its a what if theory but why not try to describe it in my point of view.
So I believe that when an AI becomes "self aware" or have emotions and opinions and stuff it doesn't think or critisize like us, it just calculates the command lines and how we programmed it to pretend to behave and feel like we do.
The AI itself is cold it just carries out the behavior we human have programmed in it.
Though I dont believe its impossible for an AI to develop self aware but I think that currently we are in a stage when we cant program it yet