From now on, develop five habits of thought that will last a lifetime.

1 objective and calm thing analysis consciousness

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I remember when I was an undergraduate, I majored in journalism and communication. When a teacher has a profound theoretical knowledge and practical experience for many years in teaching says to us, if any words is worth for you, and long influence on you, I hope everybody can in learning, living and working in the future every moment remind yourself:

Never hold a prejudice against anything. Stereotypes here refer to ready-made ideas and preexisting ideas.

When I first heard this sentence, I felt very ordinary and did not feel much. But after a long period of practical experience and life experience, I gradually understood the value and weight of this sentence.

We live in a big trap small circle of multi-layer cultural environment, it is easy to in mind for things or people to form a fixed views, and put the idea by extension, and ignore the individual differences, this is known as the "stereotype" in the field of communication studies.

Sometimes, the labeled, habits of thinking can help us more convenient and quick cognition and judgment, but more often, it has become a kind of thinking chains, solidified into our path of barriers and obstacles.

For example, we often transcendental ground thinks: the man has money to become bad, the cool and refreshing that the woman wears is style bad, the person that grow ugly is more reliable, the person with low educational background is more superficial.. Wait, wait.

However, these ideas are often instilled in us by others, and more often just our own self-righteousness. When we put aside our preconceptions and conduct an objective and dispassionate observation and analysis, facts often give the theory a completely opposite answer.

Stereotyping is a pernicious thing. It not only makes you paranoid and closed, short-sighted, but also undermines the independence of your mind and the establishment of a positive relationship with others. If there is a habit of thinking that needs to be established first, I think it is important to be objective and calm in analyzing things.

1. The awareness of solving problems facing difficulties

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I once saw a popular question on zhihu: what is the world like in the eyes of people with high eq?

There is a short and profound answer: no question is impossible to communicate, no contradiction is impossible to solve.

Face difficulty first think of the emotional catharsis and escape, it is human nature, but a person can walk how far, how much achievements, basically is to see to what extent can you overcome all kinds of "human nature".

There is a little story: a little boy is lifting a stone, and the father is encouraging the child nearby. When the child finally failed to move, he told his father, I have tried my best. The father replied, you didn't try your best, because I was by your side and you didn't ask for my help.

This story tells us that when it comes to solving problems head-on, we should be willing to communicate with each other in attitude and exhausted in means.

Most of the time, it seems like there is no end in sight, but as long as you take a step further, ask more, do more, everything will be very different.

So, if you want to make life get qualitative change, from this moment for themselves to establish a positive sense of problem solving, tell yourself don't hesitate, don't delay, and communication and action immediately.

A diligent poor man can ask a golden horse; a diligent man can run three thousand miles.

1. Thinking of rich people

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What makes the rich richer and the poor poorer? How much resources do you have? Are they accepting higher education levels? I admit it's all a matter of reality. What really separates the poor from the rich, however, is the way they think about things and analyze problems.

What's the difference between the rich and the poor?

We poor people, or ordinary people, have the resources to do so much.

A rich man is a man who has in mind what he is going to do, and when he has set his goals, he begins to think about how he is going to raise resources.

The rich mind reverses the logical relationship between "goals" and "resources" so that they are not constrained by seemingly insurmountable barriers. Because of this kind of thinking, so there is no block to do one thing: please, no one can have no money can borrow, do not understand can be outsourced, can evade restrictions, the enemy can be reconciled, competitors to buy.

In a word: The solutions were all thought out

And before doing things, we always have, always feel that their accumulation is not enough, the time less than, still need to study method, experience to learn again, what things can become a reason to stop doing one thing, we in the eyes of the world, everywhere with red line.

What is good is false.

So, before you haven't become the so-called successful people, might as well to look at how they want to do things, QuFaHuShang among them, QuFaHuZhong beneath it, want to be what kind of person, might as well go to imitate.

4 Value oriented thinking

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When we analyze and solve problems, emotional things often dominate. It is often emotion that beats reason in judging whether something should be done or not, and how it should be done.

If we use more economics knowledge to know life, use some of the value orientation of thinking to judge right and wrong, to persist for a long time, everything will be in perfect order, efficiency will be much higher.

Today, I'd like to introduce a method of thinking about analyzing problems, called swot analysis.

The so-called swot analysis, is closely related with the object of study of various main internal strengths, weaknesses and external opportunities and threats, etc., through the investigation list, and according to the matrix form, and then use the thought of system analysis, the various factors each other match analysis, from which a series of corresponding conclusions, and conclusion is usually a certain decision-making.

By using this method, a comprehensive, systematic and accurate study can be carried out on the situation of the research object, so as to formulate corresponding development strategies, plans and countermeasures according to the research results. S (strengths) are strengths, W (weaknesses) are weaknesses, O (opportunities) are opportunities, and T (threats) are threats. The diagram below:

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When we applied this method to the real life of decision points, will reap a more rational and balanced decision results, this method, flip a coin dice class really far more spectrum.

5 Look at everything in essence and learn to think in another way

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I have to admit, you and I all live in a very utilitarian era. The most prominent feature and rule of this era is "exchange". The exchange here is a neutral word, not the same as the unwritten rule, it contains both the material and spiritual aspects of the exchange.

So, essentially, want to let others help you to do something, or through your efforts to get what you want to get the benefits, you must look fundamentally, figuring out what you have to exchange chip with each other's real needs.

I once wrote an article called "eight hard truths that make you hate each other so much".

If you're thirsty and can't stand it, you only need a glass of water. And your friends to deep feelings for you, he expected the steamed for you a whole pot of steamed bread, worn out a far walk more than nine hundred pairs of shoes to your side, this is what kind of experience for you?

Kidding? In our life, we often make such stupid mistakes unconsciously. Sometimes, it's not that we don't pay attention to ourselves, or even that we don't work hard enough. Instead, we fail to take into account the real needs of the other party and use our strength in the wrong direction.

Your boss hire you, what he needs is you create substantial profits for him, so the interview, you to crow your record of formal schooling and honor and life feeling and career planning, not right to tell him that you can bring something for his company, the more the favour that can impress him.

Lover choose you, you prove that you already have her, as she need most is your message to her "I love you" is also even more information, so you continue to prove how good, how others can not compare with you, every day with her as you, care for her would be more to reassure her.

Your mentor to choose you as his graduate student, he is the most value your knowledge architecture and his research direction intersection, so please, a smile, say hello to give gifts, for his work as you more actual practical contribution.

Chicken soup: empathy has become a rotten street, also have our ears out of the cocoon son, this seemingly common words, however, contain the deal with social relations of the everlasting truth, from barter, in ancient times it was adopted by their ancestors, namely: see what his own hands, and think of each other there lack of something.

Conclusion: today I share with readers five habits of thought that can affect a lifetime. Through many years' accumulation of practice and experience of learning I found that really makes people distinguish, widened the gap, often is not those who can not seek outside or miracle, but depends on what kind of view you use, analyze and solve problems. It is true that thinking determines action, action determines habit, habit determines character, and character determines destiny.