18 tipps for being successful on Tinder! A simple and handy introduction for men and woman

Hey guys,

I noticed here is no post about tipps for dating dating with Tinder so far. Since Tinder is huge I cannot believe that and I want to change it.
Tinder is probably the most amazing and in the same time most easiest way to get a date.

I use Tinder for more than 2 years by now and have probably more than 150 dates. I have about 2 matches everyday (I do not know if this is a lot) and have dates with about 20% of them. Without being very special and awesome.

You do not have to be a special guy like James Bond, Chuck Norris or Justin Bieber (LOL). You just have to be yourself and you need to know you you can advertise yourself.

Do you ask yourself if you do have something to advertise? Of cause you do! Everyone has.
You just have to figure what makes you special. That brings me to the first point.

1. Focus on what is special on your personality.
   Either if you are beautiful, kind, romantic, funny, successful in your job, a good sportsman, an awesome chef...whatever. Just put the best 3 things what makes you very special and put it into a nutshell. That is supposed to be the text about yourself. When you are struggle to find 3 points by your own you also can ask some friends what they think makes you special.

2. Have an awesome bio!
   Creativity is the most important attribute a partner in crime should have. Even when many men or woman will not agree with me right now. I have never seen a women who said: "Oh damn, you are just too creative for me!" neither I have heard: "I totally do not like creative persons.". In fact the most women have been impressed by creativity - even when it is not the priority number one for a potential partner. Of cause there are more important attributes. But creativity boosts all of them over the roof top! So when you have your 3 special attributes what make you special, put them into an outstanding bio salted with plenty of creativity.

3. Use well selected pictures
   Do not underestimate the power of pictures. Especially your profile picture (the first one) should be mind blowing. You should be seen perfectly! A no go is a blurry picture or something like a cat...As long as you have nothing to hide: Do not play hide and seek on Tinder!
   By the way: Selfies half-naked in front of the mirror, in the gym or with a dog are a no go nowadays.

4. Use all possible and totally different pictures
   Why should you use all possible picture spaces? People get more attracted by diverse people. With pictures you have the chance to show how diverse you are.
   The most attractive pictures are pictures WITH you when you are doing sports, traveling, cooking, doing your job (when you have a nice job), doing something cultural (theater, concert, museum, ...), having an adventure (skydiving, bungee jumping, ...) and with friends. Best case: you have a picture of each situation of them on Tinder!

5. Connect with Instagram
   When you have a nice Instagram Account, connect it with Tinder! Why? You can even offer more pictures and people can immediately text you on Instagram. They do not have to match you.

6. Swipe, swipe and swipe
   Especially in huge cities you have to swipe every day. When you swipe more often you get matched more often. When you get matched more often Tinder ranks you as more interesting and you have a higher chance to get seen by other persons.

7. Text an opener as soon as possible you have a match
   Often especially women get annoyed by the matched which do not text. As a man you should just do the first step and text immediately you notice the match. Otherwise there is the possibility the woman just deletes the match.
   The woman can also text first when she likes the man!
   Either way, the early bird catches the worm. The earlier you text after a match the higher is the conversion.

8. Have a kind and creative opener when you have a match
   Not only the time is important, it is also the text itself. Always be polite and kind. Do not be a smart ass or asshole. Also avoid stupid questions like: "Hey, how are you? What are you doing on Tinder?". There is no recipe for a perfect opener. You just have to be yourself, honest and creative. A good way to be nice is to use the name (spell it correct - I did this mistake once, haha) of the match and send a smilie at the end of the message.

9. Do not be hasty
   Do not push a match if they do not text back. I know, it is super annoying when a match does not text back at all. But pressure will not make any change. Be a little bit patient and text again a funny and flattering message after 2 or 3 days the match does not response. For example: "Hey Liz, I bet you have plenty of messages because you look very interesting and maybe my message got lost. I still would like to get to know you and looking forward for an answer."
   When the person still does not response: forget about it and just wait!

10. Avoid smalltalk and long chats
    Try to come to the point. Ask good questions and do not talk stupid bullshit what is totally not interesting. When you have a good conversation ask if you want to meet in person the next days. It is a good way to ask for a date when the both of you text long messages. Just answer: "Hey, we have so much to say, what do you think about just meeting each other and talk about that topic in person?". In this way you avoid smalltalk and you get a date pretty fast.
    There is also no certain point you should ask for a date. Usually you should not ask before the both of you texted 3 - 5 times. Otherwise you seem to be creepy to your match. More than 10 messages are also not the best you can do...you are not on Tinder for chatting.

11. Do not give your number to every match you have
    It is super creepy to give the number very fast. People feel scammed by that and will not response. Even when you are texting a while with your match, be stingy with your number. You always should try to exchange Facebook at first. Why?

12. You can see more pictures of your match.

13. You can provide more pictures to your matches.

14. You avoid everybody is having your private number = it is dangerous.
    So just convince your match you are concerned about your number and you would like to chat on Facebook. You do not have to add the match. You just can chat without an invitation.

15. Have a date
    Get on a date in the next days. Be specific about it. Tell exactly what you like, when you have time and where you would like to meet (at home, in a bar, club, ...). I would not recommend a restaurant because you never know how the match is in person. During a dinner you spend sometimes hours with each other what can be super awkward. I did the same mistake. I would recommend a coffee, a drink or a walk in the park. Be obliging when it is about the place and time. Sometimes it is very hard for both to schedule a date. Do not take it personal and try to find a compromise together. That shows you are a good guy and understand the feelings of your match.

16. The date
    There is nothing really to say...
    I just can recommend to be yourself. It is up to you and your match.

17. After the date
    At the end of the date you should ask what the next steps are. Be pro-active. Tell your date: "Hey, I really enjoyed the date and I would like to see you again. What do you think?". In case she / he agrees you can exchange you phone numbers.
    When you just try to hook up you can ask if she / he wants to come with you to your place. Remember, you have nothing to lose. Your date can maximum say "No". Just ask whatever you want. Maybe you just need a some practice for that.
    When you do not want to see your date again be honest and tell her you do not think it going to work out for you. It is better to be honest from the beginning instead of keeping a person waiting. You never know if you see the person again. And who knows - maybe the match is turning into a good friend.

18. Do not be angry when the date is not like you imagined
    When you date dumps you or are disappointed by your date, be nice. I bet you will have at least one time a situation like that in your dating-time. Dates are not always easy. Important is: never forget we are all human beings. Never treat a human being like you do not want to get treated. Even when you are hurt or disappointed.

In a nutshell, when you use my 15 tipps you will be more successful on Tinder. There is no guarantee you will get many hook ups or you will find the man / woman of your life. Just try it and give me your feedback how it is working for you!

Your Dave