Cohabitation yes or no? Can it be a useful test before marriage?
More and more couples decide to live together before calling for a wedding. Until a few years ago, many people did not even consider marriage, on the contrary, it was marriage celebrated at a very young age, the only way to start a real life for two.
Now the trend is quite different, it can almost be said that it is being reversed. There are those who prefer cohabitation rather than marriage and those who wisely make it an intermediate stage before the wedding, a natural proof whose objective is the marriage itself. Others, on the other hand, are imposed a little bit because one of the two disagrees with the formalisation of the bond.
Whatever the reasons why you decide to live under the same roof, that of living together, is a very important step for a couple, where you can really get to know and experience as much as possible.
Going to live together means going out from the phase of the eternal "holiday" in which meetings are essentially made up of more or less planned issues, where one sees one above all for pleasure and concentrates on trying to give the best of oneself.
Living under the same roof, on the other hand, implies being together in all situations, even those in which we are less well cared for, to share the same bathroom, the same space at the moment of quarrels. It also means being able to fall asleep and awaken with each other and enjoy it in everyday life.
But when does a couple decide to go together?
It is essential not to force the achievement of this stage, but to try to be ready in two to do so. Being determined to know each side of the other, but not only, I am also determined to make ourselves known and to show us in all the situations of everyday life. This experience allows you to live the partner and to have the confirmation or not that you really want to be with him.
At present it happens that people decide to live together for lack of financial resources to devote to wedding celebrations and because the financial precariousness often prevents people from feeling stable even from a sentimental point of view. Organizing a wedding costs a lot, if you want to do it in a certain way, and many prefer to live together directly rather than in debt.
Furthermore, dividing the same house can be an economic advantage, rather than having to face the expenses of two different dwellings.
I've always thought that pre-marital coexistence can be a general rehearsal for the couple before summoning them to a wedding, leading to its fulfilment with the clearest ideas.
Despite the fact that coexistence does not exempt us from possible break-ups in the future, it helps us to understand what we are really going to meet in two life. Also because one of the downsides of marriage is that it is very difficult and costly to put an end to it.
Many people also ask themselves whether it is right to go together, especially on moral and religious issues. They think that cohabitation is a way of not taking responsibility for two-way life, while marriage is seen as the true and unique "home" of love and family.
However, living together can be lived in the same way. The way of being in pairs makes the difference. I am deeply convinced that you can be "family" even if you are not married.
So there are so many reasons why you decide to live together, it is hoped that the first of them is the bond of love between the two partners.