I think in this context, it's partly owning our own feelings (no matter what they are), accepting them for what they are, and also being responsible for our own energetics... What we allow in to our own personal energy fields. It's especially important for empaths, this taking of responsibility, as many empaths are open doors so to speak for all the energies around, whether beneficial for the individual or not. By knowing the self, knowing what is our own feelings and own experience in the present (even if it's about a past situation, if practicing for example familial or ancestral transmutation), we can differentiate between what is ours and what is external, and make decisions on what energies we are taking in to ourselves so that we don't become "victims" to energetics or in situations that don't support our being.
Many people are stuck in victim patterning (most people in one way or another, I catch myself in victim speak a lot still, and I've been practicing these things for a long time!) and many do not recognize those patterns as even existing, let alone as being harmful for self. It's scary to take power into the self, as the indication is usually that we have to take responsibility for who we are and our actions, our choices, our behaviors to do it. And it brings more feelings (ie guilt, shame, self loathing) that we usually try to push away rather than just accept in a non judgemental way as integral parts of the self. 😊

How does that land to you? I'd love to know! For some it is a challenging concept to swallow.

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