The fear of being alone....single parents challenges!

The fear of being alone is really a part of being a single parent...it is a situation  where one will never wanted  to be in but it is inevitable when relationship fails and having another partner is the least thing I suppose one may choose especially if there are children. However I am not saying it must be..everyone deserves someone to loved and be loved but when children is at risk then it is not beneficial. What I am saying is the benefit of the children is best to think about in this situation.

I knew someone who became happy in her second relationship and been the best couple for several years now...but fate is not the same for everyone that is why better assess the man/woman you will be with after failed marriage or relationship.

But being a single parent is a tough challenge raising kids alone. You can never know what is ahead but doing your best matters in carrying out your obligation.

I am not successful in  anyway but seeing things with a good result somehow is a relief. And the things I have noted being not only to real life but with others story is what I want to share...and hope  this will help others too.

Financial pressure

The pressure is there especially financial. I often hear this from single moms or parent be it dad or mom that single parents struggle. I have friends offline and online in this kind if situation and some of us are striving so much working even at night time when we should be sleeping but there are times we need  to stay awake us to earn for a living...at daytime mother duty..fixing household chores and preparing kids to school.. then back working again just to earn.

Relationship with kids

Being alone is the challenge...how can you be a good role model while earning for the family needs...how can you be at hand when you need to stay focus with other stuff. So that is the risk. Being alone is a challenge to manage your time by doing all the things you need to do and stay available with the kids. This is the best among the roles. 

I hear some stories that focusing in other things will let relationship with the kids fail. It is true to life stories that most families are being into...while parents are busy doing their work to prepare the kids for their future it is then a way of making them neglect their relationship with the kids though maybe its not intentional but just a must especially to single mom/dad but take note this will cause more problem...Just like I am facing now.

Talk to your children from the heart and let them know the real situation that you are in...making them realize the situation can help them understand you.

Take time for the family

Taking away a time from all the stress you have doing your work  in the family to have a family time is best to enjoy as family. And having a family time is best to have a good relationship.

Take time to be alone for yourself

Date yourself...having a time for yourself will refresh you in a bit from all of the pressure the situation has caused you...This will help you out and recharged you for the next big thing...anyway daily situations are big thing I knew.

We need help from others

Just like any other endeavor we need help especially this is a situation where we cannot go on alone...we need others help...in any way...we need advises as to how to manage the family. Taking some suggestions is always a good way to be a good parent. there are things we fail to see as we are busy with other stuff we need to do....others can also see the other side of any situation that we cannot do.

Stay optimistic

Though seems you cannot never give up...just keep on...noone will work as hard as you do for the family...so you need to be optimistic most of the time.

Take care of yourself

While doing all your works and roles..take care of yourself...If you need to stop ad not to get weary and fatigue stop for a moment! this will really help you out...if you got sick a more problem will it cause.

Be happy to all the things that you do...!!! and find fulfillment to the small achievement of the kids...

As what I am doing...feeling proud in every small achievement that #greatkid have...I knew though I may not be perfect I can say...my hardship have a good result.

PERSONAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

Thank you mam @beanz for all the support that you do...the things that you taught us in your server will our guide forever.

@surpassingoogle thank you sir terry for the #teardrops and #untalented curriculum that you created. And for being supportive to the community.

@enginewitty sir thank you for giving me the helpful feedback in my post. Love following your instruction. 

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