We are back at it again, International women's day.
For the last couple of years I've gone quiet because at some point I made the mistake of asking on this date whether there was also a day for men and got chewed up on the internet.
In case you are wondering, there is a day for men in November 19th which purpose is to bring awareness to the struggles and importance of masculinity. Don't ask about this date unless you are a masochist though, it won't be pretty.
Gender issues and Crypto, that's what I write about most in my blog. I believe the biggest gender issue that we are having is thinking of it all in terms of abused vs abusers. Ever since I was a kid I was made to understand that women needed more protecting. It was made clear to me and everyone around me that women were in a precarious situation socially, because of a mentality called machismo held by men, which made them believe that they are superior to females.
It's very easy to believe this when you are the one being made into victim, but what happens when you are the one accused of creating victims?
Here's a very small list of some things I cannot longer do or have difficulties with because I am not perceived as a woman:
Public parks are no longer a welcoming space for me. If I am alone or with other men, we are seen as possible threats, specially if there are children around. I can't just sit alone at a park without the fear of someone thinking I'm creepy and calling the cops on me.
The same goes for just standing, I can't just stand still in a place that is not my property, even if it's a public place. So I can't sit down and I can't stand.
I am no longer allowed to be without a job. A man without a job is the same as a criminal in the eyes of the law. One of the first things cops will ask is what you do for a living, where you work, and if you don't work then you are a suspect because you gotta be making a living somehow.
My body gets constantly searched when traveling and upon entering certain buildings, I never had to deal with this before.
I can't hang out with female friends in their room. When people thought I was a woman too they never had fears of me taking advantage of other women. Now my female friends won't invite me as much to their house, over what people will say or think. If they do and they live with their parents I gotta hang out in the living room, even if in the past I had been able to hang out in their room without a problem.
I am not trusted with children anymore. The only situation in which a child is trusted to me is in case of emergency, if the kid falls in a hole I'm expected to respond to this emergency without hesitation risking my own life in the process, even if the child is not my own and I don't know the mother.
Speaking of emergencies, I was never expected to run towards fire as a woman. As a man, I am required to act on trouble. If the neighbor's house starts burning, I can count on them coming to get me for help. If someone gets sick I'm the one who has to carry them to a vehicle to seek medical help. It could be 3:00 am and I have to get up and help someone I don't know with a smile on my face.
People fear me! I'm only 5'1 and yet people can still see me as a menace because of the genitals they think I have. I notice the tension, I can hear you walking faster as you try to get away from me because the streets are lonely and dark.
Homelessness is a real concern. I never had to fear this as a woman because I knew someone would take pity on me if I was ever in that situation, but as a man I know it would be very difficult to gain any sympathy from others.
I can be jailed over false accusations. I'm well aware there's probably a couple of women doing time that are innocent, but most guys I know have done some time already. I never had to worry about a wrongful conviction as a woman, but as a men I constantly have to look at my surroundings for signs of exposure to misunderstandings with the law.
I'm expected to take the risk of rejection and ridicule every time I have a romantic interest.
In a situation of conflict, like war, my life is at extreme risk. The most I would fear back then was maybe getting raped, but as a man I know that I am a target over been seen as a threat. Women and children may be spared, but men rarely are. Sometimes there is no mercy for little boys over the prospect of them growing up to become men and seeking revenge.
Everything that doesn't have a price tag is more expensive. Since I am expected to work as a man, I am also expected to make more money and to be able to afford more. Take that into consideration next time you feel like complaining about a wage gap.
There is so much more that I can say, but I guess it will have to wait for men's day because I wouldn't want women thinking I'm trying to steal their spotlight.
The biggest problem in the gender dynamic is that men love women.
Women like what men can do for them.
This dynamic means that men listen when women complain. However, women just expect men to do the things that men do, even die if necessary. Women as a whole aren't appreciative of men. What men do is just expected.
(Men and women love differently)
And it used to be, as a woman, if you wanted children, you needed a shelter and food. Men provided shelter in food. Men wanted children. So, a marriage was arranged and both sexes got a deal that they could not get alone, EVER.
Now we have made the houses for women who want to live without a man extremely easy to get. And a single mom on welfare makes more than you average young man. So, men can no longer be the provider.
And with all of the programming on television about men either being stupid or a rapists, leaves men in a hole they have to dig themselves out of in EVERY relationship.
The worst thing is that men are accused of what women do.
Men are "known" not to be safe around children, but it is women who abuse children more. Even taking into account that women spend more time with children.
Men are "known" to be the abusers in a relationship, but if we take only the cases where one side did all the attacking, women are 2x as likely to be the aggressors.
Men are "known" to be privileged, however what this turns into is that men are privileged to work longer, harder, more skilled, deeper thinking and more dangerous jobs.
Thanks for your post TommyCordero
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Great comment as usual, @builderofcastles .
You did good in choosing your display name, your posts are always very constructive.
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ok you are racist................. would be the common reply
racism and sexism are way to high because of people's stupidity to judge everything as that , i totally agree with what you said and i expect to see the upcoming comments :P
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Yeah, I just got called a troll on some other site for speaking about this. They will call you racist, sexist, ignorant, bigot, misogynist, backwards, ect, ect.
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there is no point to write that over the internet, the answers are obvious and the majority if not all that replies like that are total idiots
Personally i never write a comment on any site or social media regarding those matters cause i know the typical dumbasses who will reply, instead i prefer an 1vs1 talk or a public talk with even size of ''friends'' in the background cause you know if you are 1 person and say 1+1=2 and there are 100 who say 1+1=5 you know who will prevail!
At the time being most of steemit members use their brains so you propably wont here these type of replies i mentioned above
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I used to give public speeches a lot, but you find the same thing you do online. The difference is they will hesitate before calling you names because things can get physically violent when you insult someone offline. But they will name you anyways, even if behind your back, even if only by the way they are looking at you. They will marginalize you, they won't speak to you if you voice those opinions, they will try to coerce you into accepting this reality by selling you to others as a monster.
I decided not to talk about the subject in public anymore for that reason, because I thought I was wasting my time. If I need to say anything I will say it on a blockchain, where I can't be censored.
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if you hear again the politicians fucked up the country the answers is the vast stupidity and greed fucked up the whole planet
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Your list (I know, it's just a part of long list) strengthens my own opinion about some people who judge only about the sex. Yes, every point on your list is right and I'm totally agree with you, but I really need to think that it's all wrong. I want to be free to judge (better: not judge) other people just for their actions. Now, as a woman, I have some privileges and some damage (exactly as the men), but I'd like to have privileges/damage just because I'm a PERSON. ^_^
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We all have things that affect us, my hope is everyone feels free to speak about their experience. The problem is only for certain groups is acceptable to complain, men don't get to complain because the world supposedly favors them.
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