Yes, he can't take stand for me publicly, so what? I still love him. Is it mandatory that always guys have to take stand and prove their love? because this is what society is featuring now. How come some one compare your compassionate love to not standing up. It's just not his quality. Yes my husband can't take a stand publicly because he has a phobia that does not make him less man. He wasn't able to convince his parents about our relation I convinced them. That doesn't make me less women and more man. Yes I was looking for someone who can complete me I was looking for qualities which I did not poses. I already had quality for standing up for my self or pamper my self when chips are down, why would I look for someone with same qualities. I have seen my brother growing up. I was 6 years elder to him. He was taught that one day he has to be man of the house and he has to start owning up responsibilities. I was elder to him I was more mature. He had not even hit the puberty when he started to sit on the shortest of the dinning table when dad was not around. I could see in his eyes he did not wanted that. But here comes the fellow who even scares the God the society. My parents had to teach him so that in office parties, family functions or any other social occasion they can walk with head high. There are men out there who wanted to chase their dreams, who did not cared about UG or PG. They did not want to became great. They just wanted to became something just so that they can stand in front of mirror and can actually smile instead of pretending it every time. Most of the the men are sitting at a desk which they did not chose. They could not speak up for them selves, they bent the knee in front of society. Please don't make your loved one suffer their entire life just because you wanted walk with head high. My brother cried at 6 in public, he became the centre of fun people walking by use to wipe his tear and would say man don't cry. Why? Why are we teaching him this? Isn't he the human being? Doesn't he have the feelings. Let him express his emotions. Men's are considered product of a failed social system where expressing himself is consider crime. On the other hand we the luckiest gender 'female' are more lucky may be not in all the cases but in most. It's just the tendency of us that we play victim card.
Men are not suppose to lift you up and tuck you to the bed when you are high or walking down the aisle. They are not not suppose to skin their knew always. I know if all those things fall in place you see the card of ace. Ace's don't make you win always. It's time for us now figure out what we actually need rather than what we actually want.
Ask men to unbolt there door and look inside it. I bet you'll find darkness and mental violence. He had buried all inside there and still he carries the skin. Let them UnMan them selves in from of you. Don't make them wet their pillows every night under the burden which you put up on there shoulder and yet you see a smile on their face every dawn. Walk up to them give them a shoulder to cry a hand to hold and book to write if they can not express verbally give them a reason to live other then just feeding his families and paying up your bills. Give them a life to live.
-A sister, a mother, a daughter, a wife, a girl friend