Hints: #6 --- Say Yes to Everything

in writing •  7 years ago 

This post was co-published at talanhorne.com.

It's that time again.

Welcome back to Hints, a miniseries of Mr. Horne's Book of Secrets.

There is no shortage of people who will try to control you, as a writer. Advice can be helpful, but for some people it is just a way of trying to hijack your story to make it their own. At the end of the day, the only one who can tell your story is you, and you can't rely on someone else to fix whatever problems you encounter.

At the same time, it's wrong to expect you to make it completely on your own. You are not the first writer the world has ever seen, and you should not have to reinvent the wheel.

So how about a compromise? Just a glimpse of the direction you should be heading. Because what you really need...is a hint.

"Hints: because you only need a little help."

Pop Quiz, Hotshot


Say you're an unpublished author trying to sell your first book who suddenly gets asked to contribute a short story to an anthology.

What do you say:

  1. "Gee, I dunno."
  2. "Short stories? I'm more of a novelist."
  3. "I need to ask my agent."
On a blank sheet of lined notepaper, write down your answer. Then crumple the paper up and throw it in a campfire because the real answer is "What's the pay?"

Huh?

Judging by the title of this post, you probably thought that the answer was going to be "yes", because this is a post about how budding writers need to say yes to everything.

And they do...as soon as they know they're getting paid for it.

Because there is one situation in which every writer---established or not---should always say no, and that is when people offer to pay you in "experience" or "exposure".

When people offer to pay you this way, it means they want you to work for free, and once you have a reputation of working for free, no one will ever pay you for anything ever again!

It's important you know this to begin with. Usually, whenever I have to list caveats and exceptions to a post I put them at the bottom. But this one exception is important enough that it needs to go first.

And with that out of the way, we can proceed to the actual hint.

Say No to Unpaid Work. Say Yes to Everything Else.


If you're an author, fame and connections are not just nice things to have, they're the key to survival. An author does not need to be a household name to earn a moderate living, but he would be an idiot to not even try.

And the most lasting way to become memorable is to become prolific. One book alone is not enough to build a career. You need to be churning out projects with gusto. So when you are asked to contribute to an anthology, or write a script for a radio-style podcast drama, or convert one of your existing manuscripts into a graphic novel, and once you are sure you are getting paid for the venture, your answer should be "yes".

And if It's Unpaid but Not Work...?


To split hairs even further...

There are some non-paying opportunities you should say yes to, but only if they do not count as work.

For example, if a TV show, radio show, podcast, or YouTube channel invites you to briefly appear on their platform and plug your book, you probably don't want to demand some kind of payment. Here you're just trying to make friends.

If, however, these same venues asked you to do something more intensive---say, for example, that a YouTube channel asked you to guest host an episode or make a series of videos for them detailing your writing process---then you're going to want to stand up for yourself and require payment.

Once you know you are getting paid, or that you are not doing any work, then your job is to say yes to everything.

The Benefits of Saying Yes


When people know you are up for anything, they tend to call on you more.

And the more you are called on, the more you will get called on in the future. Opportunities lead to more opportunities. Success breeds success. And all that can be derailed if you say no too often.

Sometimes, it is hard to say yes. To use the anthology example again, you may end up having to write a short story in a genre you're not familiar with. Or you may find out, too late, that you do not excel at short fiction. Saying yes to that may seem like taking a stroll into crisis.

But some of the best opportunities come from leaving your comfort zone. And if you can prove your mettle in multiple genres, then you'll have so many more avenues to get your writing out to the world.

Conclusion


I've already said too much. This was supposed to be a hint, not a diatribe.

But this is a problem that many budding writers face, as a lot of us are shy and scared of new opportunities. It's important to know that walking headlong into scary new territory is the most important part of being an inexperienced professional. Your first step is always going to be a "yes" moment, so you have to prepare yourself to say yes to it.

Look forward to those moments, because they will carry you to amazing new heights.

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"Opportunities lead to more opportunities. Success breeds success." well said..

@talanhorne,
Yeah if opportunity found, I will say Yes, coz few times back I said No and now I am feeling like I was a big fool at that day! I think it's valid for every industry, so yeah it's valid with writing industry as well! Great article my dear friend!

Cheers~

Completely agree with you from the first step depends very much, and if it does not prepare, everything can go not in your favor. It is very important to do their work at a high level. Thank you for sharing @talanhorne

Wow...such a wonderful and interesting topic for blogging by @talanhorne sir...
Actually I'm always respect to ur uncommon ideas...
At first, saying yes to everything that was asked of or offered to me was uncomfortable. At times, it was even scary. I’d spent most of my life carefully analyzing (and overanalyzing) the choices I made, even those that may seem simple in nature.

Giving up that control was a new experience for me, but the adrenaline rush I felt when I stepped outside my comfort zone somehow told me that I was on the right path. It taught me the value of being vulnerable and remaining open-minded.

Bonus? Stripping away the complexity of decision-making made life less stressful and freed up more of my time to focus on more important things, and many more opportunities found me as a result.
Thanks sir...

Yes sir you trully said,some people it is just a way of trying to hijack your story to make it their own.

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Exceptional article & excellent hints...!!!

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Amazing ideas by @talanhorne sir....
"Say yes. If you want to get stuff done and further a specific vision, say no to most things unrelated to your goal. If you want to get out of your funk, on the other hand, say yes."

I’m a depressive; my whole life feels like a funk. Even my goals depress me. But I’m no stranger to saying yes....
In fact, I think it's plausible that I am addicted to saying yes. More specifically, I’m addicted to keeping open my ability to say yes. The idea of saying no, of closing off any opportunity completely, makes me feel like someone dumped a truckload of rocks on my chest. It's a terrible feeling, similar to the one I get when I think about getting sober, or getting married, or having a child. The forever of it closes in on me, and I can't breathe. All the air pushes out of my lungs. Saying yes is like popping a Claritin whenever I’m having an allergic reaction to the concept of “forever.” It’s a magic pill that opens up my airways. Saying yes makes the future seem exciting and endlessly possible, instead of just endless...

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lol but it's like you say if you ask the favor of writing a script free for whatever it is, always your work is going to do no one will take you seriously, you will be a writer of second another of the lot, it seems to me to charge for our work is as a writer, contractor etc. 

our effort is worth, time and money ..

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Your first step is always going to be a "yes" moment, so you have to prepare yourself to say yes to it.

Very nicely said. For whatever reason what you wrote reminds me this movie. I think you will recognize when you start reading it.

“No maybe I can't win. Maybe the only thing I can do is just take everything he's got. But to beat me he's gonna have to kill me, and to kill me he's gotta have the guts to stand in front of me, and to do that he's gotta be willin to die himself. I don't know if he's ready to do that. I don't know. I don't know.”

It may sometimes be safe to say no, but it’s hardly ever fun. If you say “yes” to everything, everyone will tear you apart. If you say “no” to everything, no one would be willing to work with you. You just have to find the middle of this way of life. We shall say ‘no’ because we want to wait for the right moment. While patience pays off and having a strategy in place before you jump into something crucial is not a bad thing, you have to admit that sometimes you’re waiting for all the wrong reasons. One of the reasons might be that you’re waiting for courage or waiting to take the plunge.
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A nice person is a 'yes' person, whereas a good person is a person who accepts their responsibility in things and moves forward and tries to constantly evolve and isn't afraid to say no or challenge someone. Anyways I there is a movie of Jim Carrey based on this yes concept "yes man" . Enjoyed the movie though.

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Thanks for all the knowledge bro... I'm glad that you were willing to share this with us. I too think at first we should write short free-writes rather than trying to accomplish something and get nothing out of it. Patience is the key to success, waiting patiently and reading all the views can help us understand we're we lack and can act as a leverage later on. Thanks again. Would love to read more such informative articles.

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The problem of a beginner writer is not confident in writing, but as time goes by when getting used to writing then the confidence and skills will increase. It takes a great courage and step to become a writer

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unpaid work is always the best but sometime sponsorship is the only way to go

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Haha.
Be a yes man, I got it
But only if you get paid

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sir you are correct in this generation we can work with out any paid stuff.

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@talanhorne - Got your point Sir... I'll say yes to everything unless someone ask me something bad... valuable & life changing article Sir...

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You really well said that don't hijack anyone's story to make your own😂😂
Millions of people are really tried to do. Actually I'm not well writer to write any interesting or any romantic or blah blah ..
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Well if ever get to cross with that kind of question ,will give it a try though ;)

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