- People don't want you to succeed. They want you to be as you are. They care about your well-being and don't want you putting yourself at risk. But they care more about themselves not being able to put themselves at risk to get what they want more than the former. In other words, their fear that prevents them from succeeding is stronger than their care for you to succeed. That is why people say that if 9 of your friends are poor, then you'll be the 10th one. Your circle of friends shape who you are more than you shape who your circle of friends are.