On Forgiveness
We've all done something that was messy, and perpetuated fear or harm. Forgive yourself, forgive others, find grace and gratitude in what was hurtful, make a pledge to new behavior and keep moving. Trust me when I say that holding onto the past will only continue to eat away at you and cause more harm. Some people are addicted to feeling shame and being a victim, let that shit go. You have support, if from nothing else, the earth beneath you, the breath within you.
I've been doing some work on forgiveness, this year, and have learned that there truly is freedom on the other side of forgiving. Through years of study on yoga as it relates to trauma and the brain I've also come to understand that some people are addicted to the victim mentality based on something that happened to them in their life. In some of these instances you can't forgive in the sense of asking someone to say they are sorry.... the oppressor may not be around anymore, you may have moved on etc. What you do have the power to do is not let that shit hold you captive today.
What would it take to understand that and to forgive yourself.
On a personal note, I had an experience once that broke my heart. I needed time to heal but I could not let myself fall victim. So, every day, I would imagine a stitch healing my heart. Some days the stitch was big and covered a lot of space, some days it was small, some days it opened up again, but every day I added a stitch until I don't remember adding anymore stitches. The experience happened, but I'm not a victim to it. I found grace and forgiveness and sweet surrender in the healing process.
I understand not everyone has had the same experiences as I have, and we all show up in this moment with a vast array of pasts. Regardless of what all it is, can you stand up for what is right in the wellness of the collective and be a beacon for ships at sea to know that there is port in the storm.
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In love,
K