Throughout the years, any female in any group has been captivated with an alpha male who she hopes would allow her to bear his kids, giving the offspring a chance to survive in the big, terrible world into which they will be born and nurtured. These women aren't looking for a long-term or serious relationship. All they want is a brief respite before having the honour of delivering a kid. In this aspect, the alpha male is fortunate, because he has a gang, and while he must protect them all, he does not give them all special attention.
This describes the alpha male human perfectly. The alpha male is fiercely loyal to those he chooses to guard and will go to great lengths to avoid harming them; but, he will not give them his heart. A female who successfully captures and pins down the alpha male is a rare find. Because there are many other "fish in the sea" looking for more than the alpha male can provide, it will be these fishes who will break the alpha male's hold on the girl he has chosen to pursue.
When a non-alpha male enters a relationship, he must approach it as though he is looking for an everlasting mate but not expecting one. This means that, even if the woman you wish to propose to is the woman of your dreams, you should not propose on the second date. A woman who chooses to be in a relationship with a non-alpha male will approach any relationship with caution and open eyes. She'll investigate what the man she's selected has to offer. He'll have to ensure that she has a secure financial future (this can easily be done by going to college and setting a realistic ten year plan in your twenties.) She'll also be looking for emotional security, something she won't find in a dominant male. If a man who is not an alpha male believes he cannot dedicate himself to a scenario that will matter, he should not be with a woman. He'll have to keep things light and befriend the female in order to avoid a bad reputation among his female pals.
If you are not an alpha guy, keep in mind that you may have to struggle to get where you want to go. While you may not have an advantage, you do have resources available to you. If at all possible, take advantage of a circumstance where the girl sees you at your best. If not, make an effort to do so. Women admire self-assured males.
Things to avoid doing:
- stuttering
- drooling
- spilling your drink
- saying anything that resembles a pick-up line
Things to do:
- smiling (make it natural)
- speaking in a regular tone of voice
- looking at her in the eyes
- Start the conversation (If this appears to be a challenge, identify something in your environment that is of interest to you)
- at the end of the night, walk her to her car
- get her phone number
- most importantly, call her!
Following these principles and allowing a relationship to develop between you and your female counterpart based on mutual interest and respect is possible. She'll look at you and say, "Alpha who?" before you realize it.