When you hear “2020. year ”what comes to your mind first? Yes, the theme of the year is definitely this year. As the end of 2020 approaches, there are many comments about what it actually was like. While some say, “Worst ever, she didn’t come back,” others point out that it was during this period that they achieved a lot they didn’t even dream about and discovered so many things about themselves that they’re actually grateful for everything that happened. And everyone is right!
What is it really about? How did these polarities come about?
Author: Dr. Darko Cvetkovic
By people experiencing problems differently.
For me personally, this 2020 was a year of integration, realization, cleansing and personal fulfillment. It was these circumstances that contributed to that. How exactly?
We all live fast, it’s the 21st century… Everything is instant, accessible… Simply, we don’t have time to waste. Some people say time is money (as if that is the most important thing), noise is all around us. From all this we cannot hear ourselves, our soul, the primordial need, our primordial SELF. There is so much to do during the day, and the day lasts only 24 hours. If it lasted at least 48 hours, everything would be easier… I claim that it would not. Then we would look for 72 hours and then more and more, and nothing, in fact, would change.
Just when almost the whole world stopped… when everything we thought we had to, suddenly we couldn't, the following came to me so clearly: You see, you can do without everything. We had everything we thought we didn't have, time, money, family, and we didn't know what to do with it. Stores do not work, we do not spend time like in the story, because the movement is banned, the family gathers non stop… So what now?
It is a time for integration, a time when there is no noise, distractions, tasks. Everyone who was awake and aware used that time to apply what they had learned.
I want to share with you what my lessons have been learned.
Lesson no. 1 - Acceptance
Everything that I cannot change and that I cannot influence, I just need to accept. Anyone who is not in acceptance enters into aggression, intolerance and conflicts. And there were people like that around me, even people close to me. What exactly do I mean here? I let these people turn around and leave, clean up from my surroundings. I accepted that I could do without them. Through meditation, I saw my own death and abandonment of the physical body. I thought, if it's time and if this is the way to "go", ok, it can. With that acceptance, the fear of viruses, diseases, and suffering disappeared. Everything is OK. Everything is as it should be for my highest good.
Lesson no. 2 - Flexibility
I’ve talked to people a lot about flexibility through my work. The NLP axiom reads: The most flexible people manage the system. I want to manage my systems, so I need to be as flexible as possible. And yes, that’s where I came to a new level of flexibility. I can't go to the gym, ok I'll work out at home, but I'm not giving up. I can't hold an education, ok I'll work online. Both I and the people need it. I realized that inflexibility is a consequence of fears. When people can't afford to do something for fear of not knowing, that they will be embarrassed, then they become rigid. It doesn't matter to me if I'm embarrassed. So we will all laugh… Isn't it wonderful to find a reason to laugh? Everyone already knows enough that I’m not perfect.
Lesson No.3 - Routine
During all this time, I realized what makes me productive and at all costs I wanted and managed to maintain it. I thought about what I do when I'm most productive. I saw patterns that when I train and have a feeling of physical strength and lightness, that I am much more efficient then. I realized that the Reiki technique as an energy charge is always welcome to me and that when I connect with energy and set an intention before any activity, everything goes incomparably easier and better. And there is meditation, which has become even more dear to my soul during this year and has become an obligatory part of the routine. No matter what. Every morning first these three things, then everything else.
Lesson no. 4 - Empathy
There has been a lot of condemnation this year. People condemn others for not wearing a mask, while others condemn those who do. Calling by different names, insults, injuries… All this happens out of fear "what will happen to us?" I have been thinking about it for a long time and I am of the opinion that some of the measures prescribed by law are not very effective, but I have dealt more with people's emotions, connecting with them and their fears. I did not want the sentences to take effect. I respected everyone's attitude, because I think that in such a challenging situation, people first of all need love, a nice word, support. That can save us in general. If we don't agree with someone or something, let's talk about it through love.
Lesson no. 5 - Peace
Everything I do, I want to give me peace. Peace is, from my point of view, the emotional state of a person, when his interpersonal relationships are good. When I have a disagreement, just a bad relationship, I get upset. I am not efficient or productive. And that's why when I have unrest, I solve all the relationships first, then I do anything. My decision is to be gentler towards people, to approach them with love and respect. Peace is the most precious thing.
And as I read these lessons of mine, systematized like this in one place, I think they can get me to my goals faster than anything. How?
We often think that much more is needed to achieve some goals, but when you think about these five lessons, you realize that you can do everything, and you don't have to do anything, because when you are well, everything is set to be just right.
Cleansing people, relationships and situations must happen when you grow up. Some people just take a different path that doesn't "shoot" with yours. The values do not match, and we are no longer able to compensate (suffer) some behaviors. As you move forward, the environment changes on its own. And that's also OK.
Someone says: Let's just go back to the old. No, I don't want anything to go back to the old way. Then we didn't understand anything and we didn't climb the stairs at all.
I want to enter next year with my lessons, with a new approach to life, and I know that my wish list will come true. Whatever we do in acceptance, love, peace, with routines that support productivity and be flexible, success is guaranteed.
That success that is for the highest good of my soul.
