I miss what I will… I have, I don't have… I need, I don't need…
We constantly think that we will be better people when we do something or maybe buy. That we will be better if we have more or less pounds than now, curly or straight hair, that we are just a little taller or shorter. That with money we can achieve everything we want, and we never have.
We think that then someone will accept us and that we will be worth more.
And in fact, these are all pure delusions that constantly keep us in dissatisfaction, in bad shape.
The system teaches us to never be completely satisfied, to always strive for something better, stronger, more beautiful. Let's look for more, more and more… And he constantly sells us a new phone, new sneakers, a new car… Everything is always more advanced, we really need everything and you are not a "face" if you don't have everything that is in trend. You’re sure to notice that new phones come out in a few months, instead of years, like they used to. Why? Because dissatisfaction is growing and it is becoming easier to manipulate people with material things, false happiness, artificial appearance.
That is not the key to happiness and it is not the change we need.
We need to accept ourselves to begin with.
When we do that, then everything else is easier. Then we can do almost anything. And we don't have to be perfectly handsome, beautiful and trendy.
You can accept yourself right away. How?
The man looks the way he feels at that moment. You notice that when we are not well, then we are not tidy, tidy… Let's do the opposite. We know we're not well right now, but let's get organized and be top. For starters it can be a shower. They say that water cleanses and heals. Then dress nicely for yourself, for your condition, not for others. Wear something beautiful that you have and in which you feel great. Throw away old and worn things. Tidy up your hair, women and makeup… Then stop and remember what you did well the day before. Pat yourself on the shoulder and say out loud, "Well done King."
Then thank yourself for being just the way you are. Sometimes sensitive, sad, moody, and sometimes strong, brave, powerful. Because we are everything. It depends on the moment. And thank yourself in the most emotional and sincere way.
Then, be well-meaning, kind, and supportive of others. That way you will awaken the good in yourself. Do for yourself or others something you love, without fear of condemnation. With a lot of pure love.
Then comes forgiveness for ourselves, for everything we have or have not done. That's right. There is no cure for hurting yourself, if betterness is your goal. If it's not OK, stay in the dream as it is.
It is important to know that this does not happen overnight. It takes time to really adopt gratitude and self-satisfaction. When you do that, the changes start because you are ready. Satisfied you can recognize opportunities and make real changes. And the real change starts with changing the pattern, the self-destruction program, not the environment, the partner, or the job. When you change your patterns, relationships and environment, you don't even have to change your partner or job, and we often think they are actually a problem.
No. The problem is in our attitude towards change. The easier we accept and implement them, the better our life will be in that environment, in that job and with that partner.
It's always up to us. Accept yourself, initiate change.