Calm your anger and learn to be tolerant

I don't know how to control my emotions and lose my temper for no reason. In fact, these are the fruits planted without knowing tolerance. If we know how to be tolerant, there will naturally be less anger in our hearts that may bring harm to others and ourselves.

A child doesn't know how to be tolerant and often loses his temper for no reason. One day his father gave him a big bag of nails, and told him to hammer a nail into the fence in his backyard every time he lost his temper.

On the first day, the little boy nailed 37 nails on the fence. After a few weeks, the little boy gradually learned to control his anger, and the number of nails on the fence began to decrease gradually. He found it much easier to control his bad temper than to drive nails into the fence ... Finally, the little boy didn't like to lose his temper.

He told his father about his change. His father suggested to him, "If you can persist in not losing your temper all day, pull a nail from the fence." After a while, the little boy finally pulled out all the nails on the fence.

The father took him by the hand and came to the fence. He said to the little boy, "Son, you did a good job. However, if you look at the holes left in the fence by those nails, the fence will never be the same again. When you lose your temper to others, your words will leave scars in people's hearts just like these holes. It's better to do this than to stab someone in the body with a knife and then pull it out. In fact, as long as you know how to be tolerant, all this is avoided. "

Society is made up of people, and no one can live in this world in isolation. We are sure to encounter unpleasant times with others in our lives. We should check ourselves. When we are unhappy with others, especially when we feel that we have been treated unfairly, will we be hostile to others? Will we have resentment against others because of this?

First of all, we can say with certainty that when we are really treated unfairly, we have every reason to resent others, because we are actually wronged. However, if we think calmly, what do we get from resenting others? In fact, we can only get deeper harm than each other.

It is a wise man's practice to forget his resentment towards others. If you haven't learned to forget and forgive, then from now on, you should ask yourself, or even force yourself, not to hate others.

A teacher found that a student often drew something with his head down in class. One day, he went over to pick up the student's painting and found that the figure in the painting was his grin. The teacher didn't get angry, but just laughed foolishly, asking the students to process and draw more images after class. Since then, the student hasn't painted in class, and he has learned all the courses well. Later, he has become an accomplished cartoonist.

Tolerance not only needs "magnanimity", but also is a kind of wisdom promoted by self-cultivation. In fact, only those with broad minds will naturally use tolerance. On the other hand, if the elders move the chairs, there is nothing to say to the young monk, but the young monk may converge from now on but never really reflect, and there will be no future story. Similarly, teachers' pranks on students are usually furious and then severely criticized, but because the way is too "normal", it is difficult to achieve "unsmooth" effect.

Tolerance is a noble quality, lofty realm, spiritual maturity and spiritual abundance. With this quality and this realm, you will become open-minded and mature. Tolerance is the light of benevolence, the supreme blessing, the release of others, that is, being kind to yourself. With this kind of light and blessing, we will stay away from hatred and avoid danger.

Tolerance is a kind of wisdom of survival and art of life, and it is the calm, self-confidence and detachment gained after seeing through social life. With this kind of wisdom and this kind of art, you will take your time in the face of life.

Tolerance is a kind of strength, a kind of self-confidence, and an invisible appeal and cohesion. With this kind of strength and self-confidence, you will have answers and succeed.

Learning to be tolerant means that we will no longer punish ourselves for the mistakes of others. Anger and sadness are the shadows that follow narrow-mindedness. The root of anger is often that others do things that infringe on and hurt their own interests and self-esteem, so they get angry and get angry from the heart. This physiological reaction is undoubtedly punishing oneself, and it is for others' mistakes, which is really not worth it!

Learning to be tolerant means that we will no longer have bad feelings, so as to have a natural and unrestrained style. In the course of human history, there are countless things about partisanship. Its essence stems from people's narrow psychology of arrogance, always thinking that they are better than others, rejecting and belittling opinions and behaviors that are different from themselves, and even shooting at each other, which makes them nervous and worry a lot all day long.

We should know that when we get along with others with tolerance, we should also accept various ideologies with tolerance. If you want to sell your thoughts to others and change others, it will only bring you troubles. It is necessary to cultivate the self-restraint of living freely and making others live comfortably.

Learning to be tolerant means that we won't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Tolerance, first of all, includes tolerance for oneself. Only those who are tolerant of themselves can be tolerant of others. Half of people's troubles come from themselves, that is to say, painting the land as a prison and making a cocoon for themselves.

Everyone has his own strengths and his own weaknesses. Competitive beyond a certain limit, often tired of things outside, lose the pleasure of being a man. Only by admitting that you can't do well in some aspects can you foster strengths and avoid weaknesses and work and live calmly.

Most importantly, when we are tolerant, we should know that we are not bringing benefits to those who have hurt us, but adding freedom to our own hearts.