We don't like to have anger, but we can't help but let people and things around us interfere with our mood.We're just ordinary people.So the key is how to control this emotion when it comes into being, so as not to let it overflow and affect our mind.
When the anger in people's heart rises, simply suppressing is not the way, the best way is to dredge them.It's like Dayu's flood control.Let the anger through a way to release is the best control.To put it bluntly, anger is actually an internal energy, and correct venting can even become a kind of power and strength.
From the psychological point of view, people can relieve or eliminate psychological fatigue by appropriately venting their long-term accumulated anger.It's better to let out your anger than to let it accumulate in your heart. It can make you relaxed and happy.Moderate vent their emotions will be like the summer storm, can purify the surrounding air, can pour out the depression and pain in the chest, can ease the tense mood.There are many ways to vent your anger. You can express your opinions through various dialogues and democratic life meetings. Of course, you can also talk to your confidants. If necessary, you can consult a psychologist or express your feelings by writing articles or letters.
If it doesn't work, just cry.Crying is a good way to vent your emotions.When children encounter sad things, they often cry.Adults, especially men, regard themselves as "men who have tears but don't play lightly", and try to endure grief without shedding tears.In fact, it can also be harmful to health, because tears can help excrete some harmful chemicals.
How to vent is also a knowledge.Therefore, in the time of catharsis, we should not only pay attention to the method, but also grasp the discretion.
If Lincoln, the 16th president of the United States, gets angry when he has a conflict with others outside, he will write a letter denouncing the other party when he comes home.But the next day, when his family wanted to send this letter for him, he would try his best to prevent him from saying, "when I wrote, I was out of breath. Why should I send it out to cause trouble?"
When anger has been generated and exists in our hearts, it is more effective to release and vent anger than to suppress it.
It's impossible to get along with people without opinions and estrangement. When you are angry, you may as well tell the injustice, dissatisfaction, anger or opinions in your mind to the person you think is suitable. To speak clearly can not only vent your anger, but also strengthen the unity between them through criticism and self-criticism.
In addition, when you are not angry, try to talk to people who are often angry with you, listen to each other's most irritable things, think of a way to communicate feelings, don't be angry.Maybe make an appointment to write a note or take a relaxing walk so that we don't have to continue to abuse each other with meaningless anger.There are several ways to vent your anger.
The first is to let out.Outward catharsis is mainly outward projection.Outward projection is a way of projecting one's bad emotions onto other people's or external things, because what is projected out is often what is suppressed by oneself.Such as their own pressure in the heart of anger through the cry out and so on.
The second is the catharsis of assimilation.Assimilation is a kind of deep-seated imitation. When people lose some important emotions, they can use the method of assimilation with others in the heart to ease their inner anger and achieve psychological balance.For example, when some people are lovelorn, they will be very angry with their former lovers, and unconsciously imitate some of their lovers' movements, tone of voice, gait, etc., so that others around him feel that he is somewhat abnormal.Maybe he didn't even know that it could ease his anger, so he expressed it unconsciously.
The third is the catharsis of imagination.Imagination is omnipotent. No matter what kind of things we encounter in our daily life, as long as we close our eyes, the most difficult things can be solved, and the most difficult wishes can also be realized. If we want to beat each other hard, close our eyes and think about it, the scene of each other being beaten by us will appear in front of us.The only thing that can really achieve "what you want" is imagination.Although imagination is a kind of "spiritual victory method" and a kind of "Ah Q" spirit, it can really make us relaxed and happy for a while, which can play the role of catharsis.
The fourth is the catharsis of degeneration.As a person grows up, he has constantly learned the skills of catharsis and many coping methods.But when we encounter a very difficult matter, we learn to deal with and vent the means are unable to make up, will unconsciously degenerate to the child's catharsis and coping methods.For example, crying, when we cry out, we will cry out the inner anger together, so when we cry, we will have a sense of relief.Only the tears that can not help but flow out can achieve the goal of catharsis.