What could go wrong if you keep looking for inner balance

The path of realization leads you to reconnect with many of your aspects. Two major parts of your whole essence are what is called the feminine aspect and the masculine one.

A typical yet self-aware man would want to integrate his feminine side. Therefore he would deliberately evoke from within the characters that regularly define a feminine behavior, such as tolerance, patience, acceptance, passivity, nourishment, and such. A typical and self-aware woman would naturally bring forth experiences that would help her absorb and contain the masculine type of energy.

This is a regular process that most disciplines of the psyche are familiar with and so could easily identify it. However, this process has a pitfall which leads many to confusion and hopelessness.

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The Pitfall

For a man must also look for his masculine side and integrate it. The fact that a man was born a man does not mean that he indeed carries the masculine energy and therefore exempt from the need to nourish it, develop it, attend to it and live with it. Many men, on their spiritual journey towards the inner female aspect, lose attachment of their inner male part and therefore, near the end, when they have fully integrated their feminine part, falsely think they have reached balance and are ready for realization. Alas, when their lives do not manifest their expectations, they lose hope and think that they have failed to integrate that feminine aspect, while all along they actually excelled in that so much so that their masculine side was abandoned!

The same description can be given about a woman who firmly works to integrate her inner male side but fails to nourish her - real – femininity. In time, such a woman finds herself attracted to strong and manly men and think, wrongly, that this passion is caused by her tendency towards her inner masculine energy. The truth is actually the opposite. Such woman knows deep inside that manly and strong man would allow her to feel a woman again, they would allow her to take a break from her continuous quest for the inner man and for a while to be a woman again. Her manly man is the answer to her inner self’s silent yet powerful cry to pay attention to her femininity.

Be Alert

This trap is devious and hazardous because it's unseen. For which man would admit, even to himself, that he should integrate his masculine side? And even if such thought would cross his mind he might find it so scary ("who? me? How can you say I am not a man? I am very manly") that his mind would ban it in a flash; Same goes for women of this contemporary world of ours who have masterred in being rational and analytical to the extent that all unseen types of energies that might assist in their quest for love, literally remain in the dark, waiting for the perfect time to erupt.

This is a grave situation that causes much pain and suffering. The good news is that once the trap is identified it is quite easy for a man or a woman to bring back their masculine and feminine side respectively. For after all this is the energy they were born with, they are familiar with it and now merely need to acknowledge it and let it be.