How Do You Cope When You Find Others Sometimes bother some?

We often wonder, how do you cope when you find others sometimes bothersome?

• Why do we put up with them?
• Why does it take a person so long to learn to deal with people and to let them know that they are not welcome in our home or our life?

Well, there is nothing complicated about how people act when they find out they are not wanted. A simple explanation that explains this behavior is that people are being very difficult. If someone is not being a bothersome, they want to make sure that they are never reminded of that fact.

But if we are not going to be bothersome then what is the simple explanation for them to learn? Yes, they will eventually move on to their next victim. This is the surest way to make sure that they keep on coming back to continue to create more problems. That is why we can't allow ourselves to be bothered by others, because if we are, we just allow them to continue to create problems in our lives and in the lives of our loved ones.

What can we do when we find people making us a nuisance? We can do a few things to avoid them and end the annoying cycle. We can refuse to deal with them, or we can let them know that they are being a nuisance by stating it to be the truth.


When a person is being obnoxious and unreasonable, they should be told to stop being annoying and by telling them to stop they may end up in the middle of an argument with us. The worst thing they can do is to respond with anger and that could get us into trouble as well.

We can accept the fact that the constantly poor behavior is actually driving us nuts and we will try to make the most of our lives by avoiding the person. That way they can go around bothering us but not harming us. It may not always work, but we will know that the person is truly sorry and will try their best to keep us happy.

The simple explanation for people being a nuisance is that they do not care that we will be annoyed. They see it as just another encounter in life and they continue to bring misery to us. We try to play hardball and hope that they will stay away from us, but the next time we are at odds, we will be the ones saying they are annoying.

The best thing that we can do is learn to deal with others and their folks who are creating problems for us and we will learn to either deal with them or let them know that their behavior is not welcome in our homes. It is only then that we will be able to deal with those who are truly annoying us and trying to make our lives miserable.