#1 I'm dating to guys (and they're totally cool with it)

Here's a story of a girl, inlove with two guys. (the story of Kate, Jon & Andrew)

Hi! My name is Kate and I'm currently dating two guys

An open relationship for us just mean that we are open

If thats a new partner, if thats a one night stand every once in a while

Just whatever feels right for either for us

Jon and I started our relationship two years ago, and both decided we wanted to be together, but we didn't want to give our freedom.

Andrew and I met at the same training program and instantly connected

Now we are still together and its been about two months

Our relationship dynamic is a "V" so I'm the partner here and then I have two partners, but its not connected - they are not in a relationship, they are not dating anyone else, but if they meet someone and they decide to start, they are more than welcome to.

It's really not about the sex. It's about being able to connect with people, and I would rather feel a little discomfort sometimes than feel like any of us are caged.

KATE: So this is Jon.
JON: Hi!

JON: Relationship are always something I was nervous about getting into.

And so i really didn't think any woman would be open to the idea of being open and then I met Kate. She basically wouldn't have it any other way.

When Kate first told me that she was seeing someone else, it was like a punch in the gut for a second. It was just got "DAH!"

And all these fears and insecurities just bubbled up and I was just like. "What, am I not good enough? Like why is she looking outside of me, what else could she possibly need? And she goes over to the guy and she hugs him.

I'm like, "wow." And then he hugged me, and it was a big breakthrough for me cause I was just like "wow" I'm so open to connecting to this guy.

And then I developed an immense amount of pride and love for myself. Because I was like, who else respond to that in this way?

So this is Andrew,

ANDREW: Hey, how its goin?

Honestly when kate told me she was in an open relationship, I was like "yes!"

That means free game, It just felt good, it felt right to get into this relationship, just to try it out and see how it works and just be fully 100% committed

ANDREW: The first time I met Jon was at a graduation, I honestly didn't know who he was at first, i just gave him a hug.

Whats up? You know, and then later I was like "oh, I think that's Kate's boyfriend."

I instantly felt those negative emotions - I need to be better than him.

The emotions changed because I made a conscious decision to want to change them, because I really care about Kate, and I really care about the relationship.

JON: My first time really connecting with you it was like, "oh hey, you are a human too." And we're both experiencing the same feelings

Then I got really great friend in my life.

ANDREW: This open relationship has helped me in my other relationships in my life be more open and giving feedback when it's necessary

I get jealous of Kate all the time, however the jealousy has started to diminish as I start to realize that jealousy was stemmed from ego

KATE: The idea of closing yourself off to any other partner seems inherently unnatural, and why if it wasn't then why is cheating so common, why is divorce so common, why is the success rate of marriage so low if this is what's natural for us.

We are all coming from a place of love - It's not about sex, it's not about not wanting to commit. Its about wanting to experience love, and just understanding that we have the capacity to love multiple people.

Credits to: Buzzfeed News!

My personal opinion, I personally couldn't be in that relationship, but if thats works for them, more power to them! Happy for you all. ❤️

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