Hey everyone! Now that I got over my frustration with the technological problems I've been dealing with today (though the issues persist), I was just checking over my previous post and had to laugh.
We have people living in Nigeria and Kenya on here commenting, telling me (in somewhat broken english) that they hope things work out better for me and it just made me double take my frustration and consider the fact that it's all for nothing.
This was a total first world problem.
With all the terrible things happening in the world, I suppose complaining about a high grade computer screwing up and losing a few dollars is pretty futile and absurd.
We are lucky to be alive. We are lucky to be able to live in a place that's not covered in craters. We are lucky to live somewhere with indoor plumbing. We are lucky to be here on Steemit. It could be so much worse.
I have to remind myself of this from time to time. You become spoiled and arrogant with wealth and prosperity.
Now we are restricted under a jackboot on a regular basis by the state powers we're up against, so it's not all rosy, but from an individual point of view, whining about a computer not working properly looks pretty dumb from the perspective of someone living in Nigeria or Kenya (unless they're a politician).
I see kids dying of cancer with smiles on their faces and I'm complaining about a computer?
Let's all remind ourselves of where we are in life compared to others. There's always something worse.
Now, I wasn't super mad about the computer situation or anything, just moderately frustrated. But even that is unnecessary. The real problems lay ahead of us. Individual liberty and self responsibility are the hallmarks of the freedom we're all fighting for. Intrinsic within us from the time of birth. Stripped away by state and banking powers almost immediately. So minding your personal stress and being responsible for your inner peace is a major part of breaking free of the chains so many unfortunately revere.
So did you spill your coffee today? Get splashed by a car? Is it too cold out? Too hot?
Well someone out there today can't drink coffee, not to mention water. Some people died in car crashes. Some people are living on the streets in that cold. The same goes for that heat. Get over it and focus on the windshield rather than the rear view mirror or the blur shooting by your peripheral.
I was recently on a bus because some kids pried my gas tank open and poured something in the tank, destroying the engine. It was a freezing cold day on the bus during a blizzard. The bus took 3.5 hours to get somewhere it would usually take 15 minutes to get to. Everyone one the bus was angry. People were shouting at the bus driver. At their significant others. People were loudly sighing as if it was going to speed up the situation. You could hear people swearing under their breath.
Meanwhile, I sat there, pressed up against a wall as a very smelly, overweight person talking loudly and angrily on their phone sat next to me. I wasn't mad though. I knew I was in that situation and one way or another I was going to continue to be in that situation for a while. I decided to smile and let time pass by. I didn't think negatively. I breathed. There was nothing that was going to change the situation and sitting there moaning and groaning was only going to perpetuate the issue further and make it worse. What is it with the human psyche that one must make an already bad situation worse on the basis of frustration? It's a common disease of the mind that we all face from time to time in life. Learning to manage it is monumentally important to our well being and prosperity.
I went through some very tough times as a kid, mostly a young teenager. It was with great pain and suffering that I learned to prosper or else be doomed to repeat the suffering for eternity.
Get your mind on the prize folks.
I felt like writing this piece just to give a few people inspiration as well as make up for the fact that I was off the internet for most of the day due to unfortunate circumstances. Oh well! Tomorrow's another day!
Excellent reminder — more gratitude and reverence — less privileged complaining. 🙏🏼 Are you a Vipassana meditator, by chance? If not, I suspect you’d appreciate what it teaches...
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It's interesting the fact that we as humans are subject to 'habituation' in pretty much everything we do, we get accustomed to our current circumstance and our emotions pave one way or the other in relation to that habitual baseline we call lifestyle.
Relating it to this post, it is quite fascinating how upset we in the western world can be due to a simple coffee spill as you mention. But like you do by writing this post, I think its important to shed light and give perspective on things, because first when we can identify a behaviour, we can correct it.
Otherwise, if you're into travelling, vlogs, fitness, self-development etc feel free to check out my channel, in any case keep up the good work and I'll see you around! :)
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Man I think about these first world problems a lot, and I am truly grateful for what I have, but I have just a tiny bit different perspective than you.
A good friend of mine from high school grew up in Nambia and moved to America with his family. After high school I caught up with him on Facebook and asked how he was, and he told me he was tired. He told me that Americans work too hard and that he missed his home where everything was more simple. He appreciated America's modern comforts but resented having to use so much of his time to get them.
I still think about this conversation to this day.
This is not to say that everyone living in poverty or dying of starvation in a third world country is my anecdote of my high school friend, but sometimes I think it is hard to see people who live different lives as us as possibly being happy.
For that matter, there was a homeless couple that used to live in my neighborhood as a kid. My mom once asked them if they wanted help and they said they preferred being homeless. They liked being able to do what they want when they wanted. Every Tuesday night they would set up their battery powered radio in the park and swing dance. Every. Tuesday. I mean, I am not saying I would prefer being homeless, but damn as far as life goals go, I wish I was as confident in my life decisions as those guys.
There is so much in life that I want that I find I am always working for it. I am never satisfied in the now seemingly. I am going to try to work on that this year, but I think it is important to remember the perspective that first world problems may seem like a joke, but that everyone's lives everywhere are complex.
So while I am glad that you are grateful and self aware, try not to be too hard on yourself when things go wrong. You are probably working really hard all of the time, and striving to achieve as much as you can. That's another first world problem too, but one that I have found that the third world, and the "underserved" actually feel sorry for us for.
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And I certainly understand that perspective too. I'm not trying to generalize the issue at hand. I worked labor construction years ago with a man who actually grew up in Uganda. He once told me the construction work was harder here than it was in Uganda and that the foremen are harder on him.
With that said, taking advantage of the little things is great and a MUST if you're living in ditches in many of the rougher parts of Africa, but when your mortality rate is incredibly low as a child and you end up eating bugs to survive, I'm sure those in the most wanting situations would love to live in the west.
I've known many people from all over the world. I knew one kid from India who had just moved to Canada. He had never seen an open space before. He was used to living in slums surrounded by millions of people at all time with people using the streets in public as a bathroom. Picking maggots out of his food. Seeing a field. A park. Snowfall. He looked like a man at the gates of heaven.
I also spoke with a man from Venezuela recently. His stories are horrific. His family is still there, not able to leave. They're not creating enough passports for people to escape. Their excuse is not enough paper but there's more to that story. Anyways, he actually mentioned Steemit to ME rather than the other way around during a ride share. Spoke of how great these kinds of opportunities are and how lucky we are, though rightly mentioned that Canada is going down the same path as Venezuela was many years ago.
My point is that while it's subjective, acting as if it's the end of the world because a computer's not working the way it should is pretty dumb in comparison with what so many are dealing with.
I know it's relative to what one is used to and that which conditions them as individuals, but perspective is necessary in breaking free of the chains that hold us down. It's a self healing tool. There are many I'm sure who live in slums telling themselves it could be worse, and it could. It always could be. It's just important we acknowledge that rather than succumb to unnecessary stress.
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That's a very good point. I wasn't trying to insinuate that there still isn't a good deal of people suffering. There definitely are. When I am stuck at home with a sick kid, it is always the worst timing ever and I'm usually so tired and depressed, but I stop myself and realize that they will get better. Some parents have kids that won't and while they're sitting in a hospital somewhere, they would give anything to be in my shoes - the parent that has a temporarily sick kid.
I guess I just meant that you can make yourself just as depressed and stressed by thinking of all the people that have it worse sometimes. That's not to say that having perspective is bad, it's definitely a good thing, but I think balance is important too. I often just have to wallow in my own misery before I can gain any perspective, and then I feel like a fool for having wallowed in my misery when what happened was really not that important, but somehow I just have to go through the process, haha. I remember reading a quote one time that said to always give something the 5 rule. If it's not going to matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes thinking about it. It's perhaps too simple, but it's also good practical advice. I wish I could actually follow good advice, haha. Ah such is life.
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Good job :)
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I am grateful for your great-full article, things can always be worse and can always be better as well.
Thanks for the reminder and the follow:)
Well said.
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I get you, Josh. Back when I was younger, I lived up in northern BC back when the socialist NDP was in power back in the mid to late 1990s. It was a horrible place for a young person like myself to start life as an adult. It’s disturbing for me to see the millennial generation have its current love affair with socialism.
I’m suppose every generation has to learn it’s lesson the hard way.
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Good story buddy
Thanks for the information
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Sometimes, a little setback helps you appreciate what you have. Nice post!
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Way to put things in perspective. I thought my bus rides were long but over 3 hours for a trip that is usually 15 minutes is crazy.
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