Wanted to share my experience here. Often we are leaned to give our kids favor, and tend to keep them in comfort. But at some point, we need to leave them and learn from their mistakes. That way, it will make them disciplined. I am sharing my experience here. So my 10 yr kid who reads in Standard 5, is not very disciplined yet, and keeps forgetting things. Sometimes he would forget his school locker key, sometimes his pouch of pens / pencils and will ask me to bring after he boards in the school. Though it did not happen a lot of time, but it happened 2-3 times.
And today, he forgot his water bottle for the first time and then asked me to bring. And I strongly denied to do that today, though from my heart, I was feeling bad. But this is the only way to teach him that he needs to take care of his things.
So I decided, not to get him today and use his own ways to manage. This way, he will learn two things : to manage in odd situation, and then to be disciplined to check his belongings before he leaves home.
We need to stop giving comfort to the kids at some point so that, they need to be independent on their own. If you are not doing this yet, then please do it asap. By doing this you will only help your kid, so don't take by heart by act by your brain.
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My kids were telling me I was a very strict mom. I'm sure they hated me in some periods heavily. Today, when they are grown up, they are asking me how did I manage with all those stupidities they were capable of.
But what I wanted to tell you here is that I avoided to punish them as much as it was possible, or at least not to punish them before I worn them for few times (usually I was counting up to 3) certain punishment would come if they continue to do this or that.
Besides, kids are at that earlier age (from my experience up to 14 or 15) forgetful. You tell them to do or behave in a certain way and they would say "Yes", truly mean it, and in very next second they don't know anymore what you were talking about a moment ago. As well, at that time they hardly focus. Their attention is jumping from one thing to another almost every minute. Sometimes even less. In other words, they are still very playful.
Therefore, my approach was to teach them to create a habit. It's a process, and it takes time. Above all, it takes a lot of our (parent's) effort.
Meaning, in concrete case I would do the following.
Before we leave the house I would check with them what they have to bring with them, every single item to make sure me and them everything is there. And I would repeat the process until it becomes their own habit. Through time, you would just need to ask: "Did you take or pack all you need?" 😉
But, if you can't discipline yourself to teach them that habit through regular and persistent repetition they wouldn't learn it, as mainly children are copying us (even when we are not aware of that). 😉
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Nice attempt, its very true that they forget and we need to put them in a practice.
Sometimes I feel myself, I could forget many things when I wish, that would keep stress away :)
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Oh, I even wish if I could turn my brain completely OFF sometimes! 😁
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