A person who always agrees with everyone or inexperienced, or hesitates to declare his opinion out loud. This is not a problem if you are a junior school student-there are a lot of training, unscheduled experience and the opportunity to win this feature, but we are talking about adults (25+). Let's try to make out where to start to learn how to say what you want.
Fear of being different
Religion is the expression: "the work of God to raise the person, the work of the devil to keep man in decline". The metaphorical translation of this sentence is that the attempt is already the beginning of the path, and the steps towards – the test of strength. A typical mistake is the premature disappointment of not climbing Olympus from the first time. Focus on accustoming yourself to a dialogue in which your "I" will dominate, not the fear of being not like everyone else. Be grateful to your will for the most short dialogues, from which your point of view come out the winner of doubt and embarrassment.
Dialogue with a friend
Start to exercise is easier with someone that you have confidence in. Ask a friend to help you with this. Make a topic for conversation and stumbling stone for discussion – thus, without leaving the comfort zone, you can exercise your character, oratory ability and defend your opinion.
Method of induction
If the problem of internal dialogue is solved, we can go by a philosophical method of induction, which will simplify the practice of acquired skills.
Induction is a method of thinking, which is based on the awareness of the General by studying the partial.
This means that it is time to apply some learned practices on a different scale. For example, you have learned the lessons from the above, but their essence was in contacts only with loved ones, you do not have to leave the comfort zone, because there were reliable people. Now we need to start exercising our courage and engage in a broad-based dialogue. Conventionally, I denote this method of induction – from simple to substantial.
I think.…
Changing the format of using skills is the main step to success. Having carried out the above in a "cozy" circle for yourself – at home, with friends, in a dialogue with yourself, it's time to go back to the light. The awkwardness managed to win and the time to start talking out loud your thoughts and defending your opinion at work. Start with a simple: discussions with colleagues, making your ideas into work plans, projects. Slowly but surely declare your position. You should not always go your own way, within the mind agree with what does not mind your principles, but also learn to say "no" if you disagree. It is very important to feel the measure in communication, the difference of manipulation and imposing opinions. "Do not believe the opinion of others about yourself more than you believe in yourself," believed the ancient philosopher Dionysius Cato, use this wisdom every time you are unsure of yourself.
Clear conscience
It is very important to be able to tell the truth and defend your point of view. Sometimes, if it fails, the person feels the wheel-destroying machine that rolls, carrying the order to destroy, to break. As the wheel cannot, in itself, to cease to be a part of the machine, need the stones of stumbling that would help him be punctured and replaced. In life, too, very often for fundamental changes need to stumble hard to get up and Express themselves differently. The practice of defending one's position means the ability to protect the peace of one's soul and harmony in General. The problem can be solved if you arouse a desire for self-destruction of shortcomings.
Good luck with your opinion.