I think I would call humility, at least in part, as the ability to lose well.
In order to lose well, we must dominate our pride. This means that we can digest the victories that others have, and not denigrate their moment of success. It would mean, in fact, that we sincerely pray for others to succeed, even at our expense, if it would be better in general. And he needs great wisdom to be able to see and admit--he is the best in general. It is a difficult prayer to pray, especially when it comes to praying for someone who is not connected to us, perhaps also someone whom we believe has hurt us.
In my secret, I know I still have to be mechanically humiliated (which means I can admit it to knowledge) when I go bankrupt.
It seems to Me that the character of the Beatitudes is much to be a pleasure to lose though. And it is easy to fly these words and not let them penetrate to the point where we face the truth.
At the moment of this truth, when the pressure is on, we would prefer to ask for the truth.
Such truth is always uncomfortable.
It's kind of like Snake and ladder game. When we played recently, I remembered how important it is to be able to land on a snake's head for the pleasure of the game and push the snake gracefully. It is equally important to climb a staircase without shining. Because snakes and scales are a fickiger game. Life is something like that, isn't it?
Success and failure are indiscriminate. Once we had a success, and Basil in Gloria, we were soon disappointed to find ourselves again bankrupt. I remember Rudyard Kipling, who mentioned how triumphant and disastrous the impostors in his famous poem "Si " were.
Success doesn't stop, but it doesn't fail.
Failure does not feel like a defeat if we can live patiently without success.
If we can live without the need for success, nothing in this world can really defeat.
Do you see the victory in it?
In my opinion, it may seem impossible to go to a place where the loss of a good is a coherent framework and behavior. In other words, not being able to prevail and always be happy to be perfectly satisfied, as much as if we were to go out on the road.
Perhaps this is the Disciple's greatest challenge. To be able to lose what we want, and to understand our desires, they are well without letting them fade into supplication; It is a victory of the key character and the sign of Christ in us.
We can be sure that he does not end up pleasing God if we have the attitude of his glorification in our minds and hearts when things go against us. It is not an easy goal, but it has to be promoted, it is something that we can practice at any time.
Be very lively if you do hard if you have a pleasant attitude.
Such an attitude is chosen.
It never comes naturally.
It's Will's decision.
Perhaps that is what gives us the most courage for the future; To know that the fact of being at peace in the defeat of God pleases. And this true victory is the character we show in defeat.
It is a joy to count, to lose well, to recognize the work of God in us by matching our character with Christ.