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#ccc: catch catch catch
I can learn to catch other people's talk better.
Or I can learn to listen better to people.
I'm always thinking really hard, and I love to think. And I'm good at it, at least how I see it.
The only thing is that I want to become a better listener.
That's been my long term dream.
I want to hear other people's opinions and especially here their inner thoughts.
So, my nephew gave me this tip about a book.
It's a book of tools to negotiate, from Criss Voss, called Never split the difference.
How to handle and talk in a negotiations, if your life depended on it
I have begun to listen to the audiobook from Audible, and you can get it from here. And you can get it for free, if you use this link.
From Audible:
I've listened to an Audible book you might enjoy. It's totally free, if it's your first time accepting a book from a friend. http://a.co/7v0Rhkm
Personally I really enjoy this book, because it is giving me tools on how to control the conversations and get people to open up.
By the way, the easiest way is the mirroring. You repeat the 1 - 3 words to the second person and they see it as an open chance to talk more.
On monday, I got a chance to use mirroring for the first time. And I talked with my coworker, who is usually not that open to me.
To my surprise this person begun to open up quite a lot, and I was really happy to listen.
This book is so interesting that I crave to get to listen it again.
I'm only 29 % through, so I have quite a lot to get done.
It's quite slow to progress with it, because I constantly stop to think about what it's saying. It's so darn interesting.
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It sounds interesting. Being a good listener also means being there. Being there you show by the way you sit or stay.
Mirroring... you have to be careful with that to. Do not give people the feeling you are repeating them like a parrot.
They also say you have to copy a person's behaviour, the small, typical movements.
If you would do that to me I would note it immediately and dislike that person.
It is good you had your first success thanks to it. If a lot of info is given it is good to think it over and not just read on.
Thanks for joining this contest. You have my 100% vote and #3 is yours.
I wish you a great day!💕
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Hey, I just read this reply.
I haven't gotten any notifications from here in a week.
So, I just saw this.
And you're criticising the parrot behavior, I understand it.
The discussions involving mirroring isn't repeating, in my opinion.
It's really just leading the discussions forward, and giving a gentle no between the lines.
And this book also tells about calibrated questions, which are a second great tool to use it negotiations.
Third advice the book tells us, is that be emphatic on your replies.
That I have begun to use in discussion with my wife. And it's working, I'm being heard.
And this is what I have been wanting to see, for a long time.
Me and my wife are people who always want to be right, and the person who says the last word.
We still engage in a shouting match time to time.
(Having 3 boys explains to you, that our family often uses shouting. It's normal)
But my problem is that I don't think my wife hears me, and I constantly feel bad about it.
So, I need tools to better understand her, and possibly get heard.
But it's going to be a big challenge.
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I think she feels the same, you do not listen to her and if you do not understand what she says.
That is something most women complain about and many books are written about it (there is a difference between men and women if it comes to the way of thinking which explains a lot too).
Sorry to hear there is a lot of shouting. I doubt this is typical for boys. At a certain age children always shout, they never loose their voice. I can remember I said for a long period "not so loud", " do not shout".
I lnow the teacher does it too "silence" every fre minutes 🤫.
You have to check your notifications in an other way. I have none either. I hope @partiko will fix it but am afraid they won't.
I wonder why it is important to be right. Do you earn a billion with it, will it give you more respect, peace of mind, less stress.
I learned it is not worth it, most of it is not worth the energy it costs.
If it comes to that I am more like my father. I shrug my shoulders and wait till the storm is over. I am happy there is peace in my house, no fights, no shouting, we all entertain ourselves. Interesting is we all,including my children have a very strong will but there is no need to fight eschother I guess.
Write down all contests on a piece of paper. If you can you can write many before the new one starts and just need to post it.
Good the book works for you👍💕
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