What Women Usually Do When A Man's Feelings Change
To help you get the most from these moments in your life, and make sure you take away the lessons you were meant to learn... consider for a minute how you've dealt with situations like this in the past.
You may have done some or all of the following with a man when your relationship was falling apart and he said he wanted to leave:
You tried to "rationalize" the situation and tell him how good you think your relationship is, and how he's wrong for not wanting it or seeing all the amazing things about it. But this NEVER helped.
You were sweeter and more affectionate, hoping he'd reciprocate and open back up to you... but all this did was annoy him.
The more hurt you felt, and the more he saw this, the LESS he seemed to pay attention to you and your feelings, or care. As a matter of fact, he may have become colder and MORE distant the more he saw that you were hurt.
You spent countless hours trying to TALK about what you were both feeling and "work" on things. But that only pushed him further away, no matter how much reasoning or understanding you did when it came to him, his feelings, and how to help him be happy.
Recognize any of these responses in your past? If so, then believe it or not I have GOOD NEWS for you. Let me explain why:
A Common Pattern: You Push, He Pulls Away
You may have noticed a kind of "trend" going on with all the common responses I listed above. This "trend" goes something like this:
The HARDER you try with a man, and the more you attempt to TALK things out with him... the LESS RESPONSIVE and "emotionally available" he becomes with you.
Fascinating.
If you're paying attention here, than you should have some light bulbs going off inside your head at this point. Hopefully you're starting to recognize a kind of PATTERN that has played out between you and the man in your life in your past.
This is your first step - to discover this PATTERN of your own... and keep CONSCIOUS of it and how it's working AGAINST YOU with men.
Of course, when you start seeing these patterns in your life more clearly, some questions will quickly come up for you.
stay tuned!