The child is a gift as well as a mandate given by God that is priceless. Various ways and efforts made by parents to be able to see their children grow and develop properly. But sometimes expectations are not in accordance with reality because of our lack of knowledge as parents. Every child is born with different talents and abilities.
Having children who are active, interactive, communicative and have high self-confidence is the dream of every parent. The pride of parents will tell about active and high-confidence children. While having children who have low self-esteem, tend to be quiet and less active in communication and relationships, many parents feel embarrassed and tend to cover up the child's shortcomings. Sometimes parents forget that every child has different strengths, which can be used as a mainstay to motivate self-confidence in children.
Growing confidence in children is certainly not an easy thing. Confidence will provide provisions for children to face their future. Confidence is not from genes or inherited from offspring, many parents blame each other when having children who do not have self-confidence, without finding out the cause. Confidence arises because of interactions with the surrounding environment. One of the things that cause children to feel insecure is because children do not dare to reveal the events they experienced. Unpleasant events such as bullying, intimidation and physical violence that occur in the school environment and the playing environment.
In Islam, Allah teaches about self-confidence in his word in Surah Al-Imran verse 139, which means: "Do not be weak, and do not (also) be sad, even though you are the highest (degree) if you believers.
Self-confidence will make us not weak and will always take action. The Messenger of Allah and the Companions had high self-confidence in the Islamic struggle. Success in da'wah and also on the other side, because of his high self-confidence.
If we have children who have low self-esteem, this is the task and responsibility of parents and teachers at school, find out why children feel inferior. Many ways to foster confidence in children, for example:
- Invite children to communicate intensely
Take time to get closer and invite children to talk, give comfort to children so that children do not hesitate to tell stories.
- Invite children to find fun activities according to their talents
Parents or teachers must be able to find talent in children and it can be developed so that children have high self-confidence because they have achievements in their fields.
- Teach children to be forgiving
Growing forgiveness will help children become confident individuals
- Teach children to build friendships
Many friends can increase self-confidence
Teach children to focus on their dreams
Teach children how to be organized and learn for the best results
Play with children every chance
Become a good example by practicing what you say
Teach children responsibility and the value of hard work
Involve children in making decisions
Let us establish cooperation between teachers and parents to help increase self-confidence in children. Confidence will provide provisions for children to face their future. Eliminate our selfishness and shame because of the lack of children but look for talent and excess children so that children are more confident. Let's find a solution as early as possible before regret comes.
Hopefully what I say can benefit myself personally and for parents in general, let's together we build the confidence of the generation of Islam so that they can continue the struggle of the Prophet in preaching, and in order to build this nation.[]