If there are conditions for an ideal parent-child relationship, the first condition is to be a complete guardian of the child. Parents accept their children for who they are. In other words, it is desirable for the child to show the attitude that "whether a good child or a bad child, a parent is a parent anyway, and will not abandon the child, and will fully accept the child when they are in trouble." From the parent's point of view, even if parents take it for granted that they love their children, they often do not know unless they express it to their children.
The second condition is that when the child's autonomy begins to grow, "respect autonomy." When you reach a certain age, you need to have the attitude of "believe, watch over and wait." It is important to respect and respond to the child's requests and opinions, instead of ruling the child based on the parents' tastes and values. It is also necessary to let them experience it. By falling lightly, your child will go through a painful experience and not fall again. However, if your child has never fallen, she may not know why she should watch her step because she doesn't know that it hurts.
The third condition is communication. You need to listen to your child instead of scolding or warning them. Even the same behavior that seems unreasonable at first glance may have different meanings depending on the feelings of the child behind it, and there are many things that should be affirmed. I think it would be good if you could listen carefully to your child's intentions (listen rather than interrogate) and respect them.
The fourth condition is not to deprive children of the opportunity to feel that they are useful. If your child wants to help you with something, don't be shy and be happy to ask. Everyone wants to help someone. There is no need to think, "It's bad if you do that," but the realization that the parents are happy and useful will raise the child's self-esteem and establish their own presence. I think it helps.
The fifth condition is to respect individuality without trying to fit into your mold. More than 60 years have passed since the end of the war, and in a peaceful society, one of the pitfalls that we parents can easily fall into is to try to fit our children into our own ideal mold. However, it would be extremely unnatural to have a society where only the same people gather together. All human DNA is different, and each child has their own individuality. It is important to respect your child's wishes.
Having read this far, I neglected it in my infancy. Is there a guardian who regrets it? - It's not too late. If your child seems to be spoiled, please spoil her as if she had returned to infancy. She may be a selfish child temporarily, but no matter how much she wants to be spoiled, if she is satisfied, she will quickly leave. There is only a short period of time when a child seeks out her parents. There is no such thing as perfect parenting, and I sincerely hope that all of you who are raising children right now will enjoy this time with your child.