EDUCATION CHILDREN WITH LOVE

For today's parents, raising a child well is not easy. Given these days with various socio-economic reasons, many couples work together. The tendency of husband and wife work cause parenting pattern shifted compared to tens of years ago. Children spend more time with their caregivers, grandmothers, or with friends than with their parents. The phenomenon can have a serious social impact. To overcome this, child psychiatrists, adolescents and adults today offer guidance to parents who are both working to raise their children. Here's the guide:

Time The creation of a harmonious relationship between the child and the parent.

Requires time that allows them to physically gather. However, given the limitations of time, you do not have to impose quantity problems. As a parent, you should consistently spend a little time with the kids every day. In this case the important is not the length, but the quality of the meeting itself. When with them, keep distractions and concentrate our attention on them.

Listen to them

When with the kids, listen to what they say. Be a good listener to them. Thus they will be more eager to share their feelings and thoughts. So you will have no trouble knowing their development. Both physically and psychologically. Remember, if you want to have an influence in your child's life, you should be a good listener and show empathy for your child.

Set clear expectations

Emphasize your expectations for the child and what you want them to do. This can shape better behavior on them. Feel free to involve them in everyday household chores. Thus, indirectly will grow ethos and work ethic and responsibility to the family.

Do not replace affection with the material

Many parents feel guilty about working all day outdoors. As compensation, they allow children to behave badly and undisciplined. And spoiling the child materially. Remember, do not replace affection with money and material. Indeed, meeting their needs is important but do not let the material be the ultimate goal that will undermine their moral values.

Do not mutually nanny

One of the most important psychological needs for a child is that he is well-dressed and loving constantly. Therefore children need a nanny as long as both of you are not around. In order to create a match with each other look for a caregiver who is close enough to you, for example that there is still a relationship brother. This prevents the occurrence of caregiver gonti. Remember the frequency of changing nanny can be harmful to the child's mental. Because different patterns of parenting will affect the child's mental stability.

Supervision

Research shows that troubled children often come from poorly supervised families. Do not forget, children do not just know from birth, where good behavior and which are bad. They need to be taught and then supervised. Therefore, it is very important for parents to know where their child is, who is with them, and what is being done. Indeed, children often complain when they are closely watched, but unattended children also often feel that their parents do not care about them.

Give praise

During this time parents tend to give more attention when their children make trouble. Instead, the good things they do often escape the attention. And to grow their confidence, you need to pay attention to the good things they do. If the child feels neglected, he subconsciously misbehaves to attract your attention.

Provide an educational punishment

Parents who work outside the home, tend to experience fatigue and irritability easily. So they are easier to lose control of the children. This can cause problems. Never punish a child when we ourselves can not control ourselves. Use punishment to educate, not to vent anger. And choose punishment containing education.

Give an example

Children learn to behave from their parents. Although humans do not escape from mistakes, but try to show the best attitude in front of children. If there is a problem with your partner, finish both and do not let you fuss in front of them. If parents show harmonious behavior and mutual respect, it automatically instills good behavior in children as well.