Many unemployed people in life have one characteristic in common, that is, they are full of complaints. The pain of unemployment troubles their body and mind, making them feel as if they are being squeezed into the corner by fate. In fact, they have reached the corner of fate by themselves, so they can only balance themselves by complaining. However, this kind of complaining behavior just shows that the situation they encountered is self-inflicted.
Mike is a graduate of a prestigious university in Beijing. He speaks well and has outstanding performance in all aspects. He has been working in a private company for two years. Although he has a good performance and made great contributions to the company, he has not been promoted by his boss.
Mike felt a little unbalanced, and he often lamented the boss' lack of vision. One day, when I was drinking with my colleagues, Mike started to express emotion: "I think I have worked hard since I came to the company, trying to achieve something in my career. I have established so many customers for the company, and the performance is also very good. Although I am conscientious and successful. Everyone knows it, but no one takes it seriously and no one appreciates it."
There is no impermeable wall in the world. Originally, the boss was going to promote Mike to the manager of the business department. He felt uncomfortable when he heard Mike's words, and later gave up promoting him. The reason why Mike was not promoted by the boss was that he didn't understand the boss's psychology, but just blindly complained from his own interests that the boss did not have the "ability" to know people.
Complaining is of no avail. Only through hard work can the situation be improved. People often form a noble character in the process of overcoming difficulties. On the contrary, those who often complain will not be able to form a noble character throughout their lives, and naturally they will not be able to achieve anything.
Let's imagine, do you like to work with people who complain, or work with people who are helpful, kind, and trustworthy? Which colleague is more popular? Sometimes, in the work, we encounter some work that is not within the scope of our responsibility. As long as we stand in the position of the company and think for the company, instead of staying out of the way and adopting a wait-and-see attitude, then our efforts will be rewarded.
In reality, we will inevitably encounter setbacks and unfair treatment. Whenever this happens, some people tend to be dissatisfied, and dissatisfaction usually causes complaints, hoping to arouse more people's sympathy and attract others' attention. From a psychological point of view, this is a normal psychological self-defense behavior.
However, this self-defense behavior is also a pain in the hearts of many bosses. Grieving and complaining will weaken employees' sense of responsibility and reduce their motivation for work. This is almost the unanimous view of all bosses. Many company managers are very troubled by such complaints.
A boss said: “Many employees are always thinking about what they want, and they complain that the company doesn’t give them what they want, but they don’t seriously reflect on the efforts they have made and whether they have paid enough.” For managers, complaints. The most deadly hazard of complaining and complaining is the breeding of right and wrong, affecting the cohesion of the company, causing mutual suspicion within the organization, and the loss of team morale. Therefore, they are always vigilant about the "complaints" in the company.
People who complain seldom actively think of ways to solve the problem. They don't think it is their responsibility to complete the work independently, but take complaints and complaints for granted. In fact, such complaints are meaningless. At most, they are only temporary vents. As a result, they will get nothing, and even lose more things.
A person who fills his mind with the past tense cannot accommodate the future. The smart way is to stop worrying about the past and not to worry about the unfair treatment you have encountered. Nowadays, some young people who have just graduated from school cannot be entrusted with important tasks due to lack of work experience. Naturally, their jobs are not as decent as they thought.
However, when the boss asked him to do the work he was responsible for, he began to complain: "I was not hired to do this kind of work." "Why let me do it instead of someone else?" So he lost at least the job. He has a sense of responsibility, is unwilling to invest all his strength, perfunctory, let it go, and do the work crudely. If things go on like this, the vices of mocking, faultfinding, complaining and criticism will swallow up their outstanding talents and creative wisdom, making them unable to work independently and becoming worthless employees.
Complaining and mocking are the best interpretations of laziness, cowardice and incompetence. It wanders around and disturbs people like ghosts. If you want to make a difference, if you want to be good, you might as well ask yourself "What am I complaining about? What can I complain about" when you encounter injustice or feel depressed and want to vent, and then calm down. Tell yourself the answer.
When some people encounter difficulties, they always feel like they are stuck in an abyss and cannot extricate themselves. They can only balance their mentality by complaining. However, complaining is meaningless. Only hard work can improve the environment. The formation of noble character is often in the process of overcoming difficulties. Those who are always complaining may not be able to develop true courage and perseverance throughout their lives, so they will not be able to succeed.
No one wants to be with people who complain. Most people prefer to be with those who are helpful, kind and trustworthy. The same is true at work. Few people are promoted and rewarded because of negative emotions such as bad tempers and complaints.
In real life, it is true that some people are under tremendous pressure, or are treated unfairly from various quarters, but these cannot be reasons for constant complaints. From another perspective, if we accept it with a broad-minded and open-minded mindset, and treat it as a test for successful people, we will gain more.
Complaining is meaningless, at best it is only a temporary vent, nothing will be gained, and even more will be lost. Tolerance is a sign of maturity. As a mature person, the smart way is to stop worrying about the past and stop worrying about the unfair treatment you have encountered.