Complaining will not solve the problem, it will only put you in an awkward position. If you calmly observe the problem and solve it, the result of the problem will be better than complaining.
After Nixon became President of the United States, Kissinger complained about unfairness and ridiculed Nixon's "no ability to govern the United States."
However, his actions did not affect President Nixon's reuse of him, and Nixon still hired him as the national security assistant. Kissinger was deeply moved by Nixon's low-key handling attitude, and decided to give his best to help President Nixon.
Later, Kissinger used his profound knowledge, unique insights, and extraordinary courage to cross the international political arena and became a well-known international diplomat. And President Nixon, with his magnanimous mind, not only achieved his great cause, but also left a tolerant demeanor for the world.
Just like the high jump and the long jump, you have to retreat far behind to have a strong impact when you take off. The same is true in life. Taking a step back is to move forward better. Forbearance is not calm for a while, it is good for people and yourself.
When something unpleasant happens, take a step back and think about it, and it will be brighter. In real life, no matter how capable and ruthless you are, there will always be someone more capable and ruthless than you. Complaining about the injustice of the world, fighting for the death of a fish and breaking the net, it is better to take a few steps back and ask for another way.
One morning, an American suddenly broke into the manager's office of a Shanghai hotel and complained: "Are you the manager? I just slipped and hurt my waist at the gate. The floor is so slippery that there is no anti-skid measure. It’s too dangerous. You take me to the infirmary right away."
Seeing this, the manager did not get angry at the uninvited guest’s complaint, but rather said politely: “I’m really sorry for this. The waist doesn’t matter, right? I will lead you to the infirmary immediately. Please sit down for a while.”
The Americans sat in their chairs and continued to complain. When the hotel manager saw that the other party had calmed down, he said gently: "Please put on these shoes, and I have contacted the infirmary. I will show you now." As early as when the Americans broke in, the manager had already watched. There is no big problem with his waist.
Therefore, when the Americans left the manager's room, the manager quietly handed the replaced shoes to a waiter and said, "The heels of these shoes have been worn out. They will be sent downstairs to repair the shoes before we return from the infirmary. Put on rubber heels." The inspection results were as expected, and no abnormalities were found. The American also calmed down completely, and then went back to the manager's room together.
The manager said: "Nothing is better than anything, so don't worry. Please have a cup of tea!" At this time, the American also felt that he was too reckless: "The floor is too slippery and too dangerous. I just want you to pay attention. , Don’t mean it.” The manager said, “It’s very presumptuous. We repaired your shoes without authorization. According to the shoemaker, it was the heel that caused the slip to slip.”
The American took the newly repaired shoe, and when he saw the right rubber heel, he was surprised at the superb skills, and said happily: "Manager, thank you so much for your kindness and care for me. I won’t forget it.” So, after shaking hands happily, the American thanked the manager again and walked out of the manager’s room.
When the manager sent him out, he said, "Please forget about this slip and you are welcome to come again!" The American channel thanked him frequently, and then disappeared into the crowd. From then on, as long as the American goes to Shanghai, he must live in this hotel and pay his respects to the manager's room.
The reason why the American was able to leave in the end was that the manager was able to remain sensible in the face of complaints, follow the other party’s opinions, and use soft language and practical actions to dissolve the American’s grievances invisible. , Thus stopping the expansion of the situation.
Complaining will not solve the problem. Complaining will only put you in an awkward position. If you calmly observe the cause of the problem and solve it, the result will be better than complaining.
Try to take a step back, even if you are at a momentary disadvantage, don't care too much. As long as you get some kind of relaxed and unrestrained feeling in your mind, and you are ready to move forward mentally, you will win the final victory.