In fact, maintaining a comfortable relationship with a Virgo often doesn’t depend on the other person, but on the Virgo themselves.
I still believe that for people like Virgos, as long as they have enough sense of security and purpose, they can handle everything in front of them. Their learning ability or self-discipline is never the bottleneck; the key lies in whether they are willing or not.
This is especially evident in social interactions and relationships.
In social situations, Virgos have a bit of a people-pleasing tendency, but they aren't trying to please any specific person. Rather, they are building an image, making sure everyone in a given circle sees who they are.
For example, during arguments, they tend to take a step back, avoid entanglements, refrain from making negative comments, and rarely gossip about others—this is the reason.
As long as the social circle is stable and their own state is stable, Virgos can adhere to these rules.
It's not that young Virgos are not determined enough, but rather that they are easily affected by overly intense emotions, which can impact their mood and mindset. Once they get too emotional, they may encounter difficulties in expressing themselves, leading to good intentions gone wrong.
However, these challenges are an inevitable part of a Virgo's growth. The most crucial factor in a Virgo's development is having experienced too many comings and goings, trusting and being disappointed, being affirmed and being let down. These experiences help them recognize their own feelings during each situation and identify the signs people show before taking certain actions, allowing Virgos to gain wisdom from their experiences.
Internally, they learn to control their emotions, and externally, they observe the patterns of human nature. A Virgo's driving force is always aimed at a better future, and the prerequisite for seeing that future is having enough confidence.
Being able to control everything within their scope of life is the kind of confidence a Virgo seeks to hold onto.
Therefore, when it comes to maintaining a comfortable relationship with a Virgo, it's more about knowing how to grasp the right balance, understanding your position in their heart, and recognizing the phase the Virgo is currently in and what they need at this moment.
Let me give you a simple example: imagine a Virgo who is preparing for the graduate entrance exam, but is still surrounded by friends who always play video games and drink together. Once the Virgo is determined to study for the exam, they will withdraw from that circle.
They won’t try to persuade or change others, nor will they strike a balance between playing today and studying tomorrow. This is because they know their self-control isn’t strong enough. If everyone around them is out having fun, it will negatively affect their mindset, making them feel exhausted and questioning why they are working so hard, thus lowering their efficiency.
So, they will choose a different environment, one that gives them more affirmation and a greater sense of fulfillment.
They won't let their desire for comfort and fun interfere with their mentality.
However, this doesn’t affect their feelings towards these friends—it’s simply a temporary freeze in the relationship.
After they finish the exam, they will resume interacting with these friends, without bringing up what happened before.
But there is a type of person who will definitely be blacklisted in a Virgo's heart—those who, when a Virgo is trying to focus on studying, keep pestering them to play, undermine their confidence, tell them that what they are doing is pointless, or throw cold water on their efforts by saying they won’t succeed.
Anyone who negatively affects a Virgo’s mindset or tries to change their decisions will be kicked out of their world.
Some might ask, "Then why should I even bother maintaining a comfortable relationship with a Virgo if they are so self-centered?"
On the contrary, I believe that interacting with someone like a Virgo, who knows who they are, what they’re doing, and what they want, can actually be easier and more meaningful.
Virgos don’t just think about what others can bring to them; they also consider what they can bring to others. For Virgos, the greatest sense of security and fulfillment comes from making themselves more valuable.
This article hasn’t mentioned anything about specific personality traits or behaviors, because those don’t really matter at all.
As long as a Virgo has accepted you, no matter what you do, as long as you haven’t crossed their boundaries, they will find reasons to excuse you, believing that you didn’t mean it.
Likewise, once a Virgo has mentally written you off, no matter what you do, it’s impossible to win them back.
Virgos are people who can see through to a person's essence. They won’t focus on a single action or gesture, but they will remember everything, connect the dots, and with time, they will know whether the person in front of them is someone they want to choose.
Virgos have particularly high standards when it comes to relationships.
But this isn’t a bad thing.
Because every person around them and every relationship they have is one they consciously chose with a clear mind.
A Virgo will never passively start a relationship.