There's no way to argue that we want to control, one way or another. Some try to have control in their relationship, some may try to control their anxiety, and some their whole environment. But the truth is, we never can control what is uncontrollable. Also in many cases, we can't have control what we can. Many more forces make an impact on this.
But we carry the burden, we keep our mind busy and anxious in some cases by planning how we can control. Ask yourself, how many times you want to change any effect, or event, or your emotions. I'm not here to make you feel guilty but to make you realize that there's no benefit of such thought process.
Let's see things from a different angle!
When we let our desires to have control over something, we don't become the puppet of our fate. Rather, we give ourselves the room to grow and develop inside out. It gives us a chance to see our problems and find solutions from a different perspective.
Just a popular case can be used as an example on this matter. If you don't have a good understanding of your relationship, no matter how hard you try to control your partner it will not work. Rather you will make it worse for both of you. But if you choose to get rid of the desire to control and let the matter and work on your relationship, maybe then it will work.
You see, it's not that difficult. But the unfortunate thing is, we don't realize that controlling mentality is a burden itself. It keeps our mind bust, keeps us stuck in unnecessary thoughts and we can't think what we meant to think normally. So, think about it and make your choices right!