In the final analysis, the highest level between people should be mutual understanding. As the saying goes: "Convenient to others, convenient to yourself", regardless of the skills of interpersonal communication, it is different ways to achieve the same goal, in order to gain understanding and support.
Understanding others can turn fighting into jade, turning enemies into friends, and finally achieve success in a happy interpersonal relationship. Like Irving, use "unbelievable care and a thorough understanding of everyone in the company" to achieve a smooth career.
In this sense, understanding is the ultimate praise. Understanding is the super form of praise. When you give your colleagues your understanding, they have already felt the sunshine of praise. Use the most pious "smiley face" in the sunshine to give you the reward you deserve. .
Because in real life, not everyone is an outstanding hero, more ordinary people, even great people, celebrities may not always have earth-shattering actions for you to praise every day.
When praising others, you must be generous. Don’t wait for others to do great things before praising them. Be good at starting small things and praising others. In real life, as long as you are a caring person, you will find that there are many little things worthy of our praise
If one morning, your husband accidentally gets up early and prepares breakfast for you, you might as well praise him, then he will get up more frequently to make breakfast in the future. If your child is very careful to prepare dinner at home one day and wait for you to return home, when you get back home, don’t be surprised by the stains on your child’s face, and don’t regret the broken dishes. Praise it, even if the child's cooking is hard to swallow.
Because your compliments can make your child's next meal or the next meal become delicious. In the company, if an employee writes down your oral letters faster than you think, you might as well praise him or her, and he or she will definitely work harder in the future.
If someone did you a small favor, you might as well tell him, thank you in your heart, so that he will be happy to do more for you. To praise others' morality from a small matter, you must pay attention to details. Don't turn a blind eye to the time and effort that others spend on details. Instead, you must express affirmation and gratitude for the painstaking efforts of others. Because some small things the other party did, it not only shows the other party's preference for it, but also shows that he is eager to get the affirmation and praise he deserves.
When French President Charles de Gaulle visited the United States in 1960, at a banquet held for him by Nixon, Mrs. Nixon took a lot of thought and arranged a beautiful flower booth. In the center of a horseshoe-shaped table, bright and dazzling tropical flowers Set off an exquisite fountain.
The savvy General de Gaulle saw at a glance that this was meticulously designed and produced by the host to welcome him, and he couldn't help but blurt out praise: "The hostess takes a lot of time to make beautiful and elegant plans and arrangements for a formal banquet."
Mrs. Nixon was very happy to hear it. Afterwards, she said: “Most of the big people visiting either didn’t pay attention or bothered to thank the hostess, and he always thought of and talked about others.” Perhaps in the eyes of other big people, the flower booth arranged by Mrs. Nixon, It's just a matter of her as a president's wife, nothing is commendable.
However, General De Gaulle realized the painstaking effort, and therefore expressed special affirmation and gratitude to Mrs. Nixon. This also made Mrs. Nixon extremely moved. Every day, many big and small things happen around us, and not every little thing is worthy of praise. An important requirement of praising others from small things is to be good at discovering the great significance of small things.
Being good at praising others from small things can not only give people unexpected surprises, but also allow you to establish a caring and considerate image. Because there are so many people around us who have not done anything important, but they have contributed their strength to the family and society in obscurity. They also need the affirmation and appreciation of others.