It’s very difficult to accept a change like divorce. Rather than being able to look towards the future, it’s more natural for most to look back and wonder what went wrong and what could have gone better.
Sometimes this focus on the past causes more conflict during a divorce, both internally and between you and your spouse. You may feel like you have “wasted your time” and “wasted your energy” with a soon-to-be ex-spouse may feel so angry and betrayed that fighting over every issue feels inevitable. This can turn an already difficult emotional process into a much more difficult and damaging one. No matter the complications that arise, most people, deep down, would rather feel peace and happiness than anger and conflict, but it’s not easy to remember that during a divorce.
When You Find Yourself in Times of Trouble, Let It Be
Out of all the words of wisdom or legal advice we can give you about divorce, none are greater or more profound than “let it be.”
Your divorce happened for a reason, it was not a random occurrence. Acceptance of what you’re facing may be the hardest part but it’s also the first and most important step toward acceptance, moving on and enjoying the future happiness that is waiting for you. It will be difficult to accept, and you will need to trek through a life-changing, heavy journey to reach the end, but you can handle it and you WILL survive and will hopefully find yourself in a happier, stronger position. Nobody can ignore sad or angry feeling but try to keep in mind that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and embrace acceptance. Rather than fighting against yourself or beating yourself up about it, allow yourself to take a mental break and Let It Be. It’s ok and normal to be angry and sad. Allow yourself to go through the emotions and progress to the point of healing, and peace of mind will come.
i would say when me and my wife were going through a lot of problems, during our fights we always brought up the past to hurt each other, but looking at it now we grown so much to get past that. great read.
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As someone who has really wanted a divorce since 2010, but couldn't manage it because we each need each other's income to meet all the bills, I believe it's better to get out of a relationship that has become unhealthy than to stay in one. I actually envy my cousin, who is getting divorced after only nine months of marriage (her husband ended up being an alcoholic, emotionally abusive cheater), because she is gaining her freedom. I'd love to have mine back, rather than live in this miserable relationship we have. Yet, we still can't figure out how to make it work. The marriage doesn't work anymore, but neither does a divorce. I can't tell you how many times over the past seven years we've both said we wanted to do it. We even got as far as the courthouse to file once, four years ago, and then didn't, because of finances. It's always the finances. This most recent time, he told me he wanted a divorce, and I told him I knew he'd change his mind because he always does, but he insisted he wanted one no matter what this time. He stuck to it for three days, then told me on Monday he would still like a divorce, but realized we still can't, because of finances, so we're stuck for the time being. As usual. Back to the same once happy, now miserable marriage we can't seem to escape. At least we manage to live on different sides of the house and avoid each other most of the time.
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Ummm... That is crazy. Just sell everything. Literally everything. Keep the outfit you have on, and sell the rest. If there's any debt/whatever left over, get a debt consolidation loan and pay it off little by little. Or just move and change your name. Your post is crazy.
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I've actually thought about moving and changing my name. The thought of doing it soothes me to sleep some nights. No kidding.
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DO IT. You can move to a 3rd world country and live on $20 a day. And have TONS of great material to blog about to make probably way more than that. Take me with you. :) I'm good with computers and weapons and construction. But I really, REALLY suck at picking out curtains.
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That's true. It WOULD give me cool new info to blog about, and more time to finish my novel (my third one....I've got two published already).
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Wow! 2 published novels already?!? Great job! I have 3 published albums. I wonder which one ends up being more work in the end. That would be an interesting debate. LOL
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Lol! I'll have to ask my husband. He's got four published albums, and is working on a fifth. I think both are a lot of work, just in different ways. There are more parts to putting an album together, but more linear work in writing a book.
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