This may come across like a Captain Obvious post for those who do have an understanding in psychology of these liberals. Eric Hoffer (RIP) is a great place to start if you really want to see into the minds of the modern day political movements.
As it turns out, what he calls an open relationship is essentially a case of him having affairs behind his partner’s back. His housewife actively desires his fidelity. I asked whether, given the fact of his three-decade partnership, what he is doing with me, what he did with my predecessors, is ethically justifiable. He replied that it “clearly” is, that his partner “has no problem with you/us so long as you’re not insisting that I leave her.” I railed at him and asked how his relationship is different from all the other patriarchal types, where older women tolerate their long-term partners’ affairs with much younger women, for fear of abandonment, for fear of being alone when time has robbed them off of their youthful beauty. I never received an answer, despite my persistent interrogation.
Instead, he accused me of tyranny and conservatism, of imposing a conception of how partnerships should be, for infringing on his precious liberal freedom. He said that his partner is free to leave him, but she chooses not to, and that I must respect her free, voluntary choice. I highlighted the inequality, pointed to adaptive preferences, and how the desire to be with him, her fidelity and desire for his fidelity, whilst he repeatedly has these affairs, undermines her own dignity. I said that like the ADULT African women who choose to undergo female genital mutilation because they couldn’t find husbands, like my aunts and grandmothers who had no choice but to bitterly endure watching their middle-aged husbands gallivanting around town with women half their age, his partner’s choice to stay with him is not as a result of free choice, given more favorable and dignified conditions. I am not blaming him for patriarchy, but I am citing him as an example.
I should’ve never met my hero, because when I did I found out that, just like his mentor (another famous philosopher), he vehemently refused to subject the private sphere to assessments of justice. I found out that it wasn’t true that he hasn’t had sex for many years, and that I was joining a list of his secret mistresses. The one before me was a 22-year-old virgin, his student in a summer school. Most of my predecessors were sexually inexperienced young women. I was an aberration from his type, he said, for I was not as inexperienced as he usually prefers them to be. He confessed to being unable to find to experienced women closer to his age attractive, to having a preference for innocent and inexperienced young women because older, experienced women remind him of his god-awful mother.
He will continue giving his lectures about justice around the world, pretending not to eat meat for moral reasons, inviting young women to his hotel room for philosophical discussions, and I’m just among the other young women scorned by the moral philosopher, who devotes his life to justice. There can be no moral condemnation. I brought this upon myself, and I deserve to live with the consequences of my free, voluntary action.
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