First, thank you for this deep, meaningful and long comment. I love long comments because it shows that someone did really read my work and has some meaningful insight to offer so I am just so honored by this comment. <3

Yes, I agree with you that everyone is being victimized by this dilemma and men aren't even spared by this. I have seen this happen to a lot of my male cousins too and it is just so depressing. Happy St. Patrick's Day to you too!