How to teach children to respond prudently to criticism and aggressive comments?

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Often, people face destructive criticism and offensive comments, which may arise and these harmful reactions are not expected.

Assertive responses allow you to remain calm, the important thing is to handle situations effectively without harming the other, and no, because the other wants to hurt you, does not require you to do the same.

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Why are there people who, simply speaking, are disrespectful by nature?

There are many reasons:

• People are going through life too fast.
• People have a lot of contained anger.
• People who do not enjoy small pleasures.
• They do not know how to criticize constructively.
• People think that conflicts are resolved with insult.

All this is because people are not educated or trained in what social skills are.

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Do the gestures and the volume of the voice attack people?

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If a paralinguistic language is used in the content of the message, that is:

• The intonation.
• Volume.
• Pauses.

What is shown aggressively is perceived in the same way, and is that it gives more credibility to what is observed than what is heard.

You must be very careful when making gestures and in the same way when speaking, because you can make constructive criticisms or resolve conflicts and simply if you speak in a tone:

• Affectionate.
• Beautiful.
• Cordial.

People must train every day in the form of expressing themselves, and this is because there is no gene for this, training must be done.

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How to defend ourselves from criticism and destructive comments?

It is necessary to defend oneself without attacking, because what would be done is to place oneself on the same level as the other person. In the end this leads to:

• See who has the greatest volume or tone of voice.
• Who expresses himself in a more forceful and arrogant gesture, who has more power in the situation.

It is always necessary to be alert to the intent of the attacker, for example:

• If it is provoking, these actions should be avoided as soon as possible.
• The best way is to ignore the comments.
• Ignore or say when you feel offended.

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How to respond to the aggressive hurtful?

• Ignore with words and gestures.
• Do not show pain.
• Frivolize and divert the subject.
• Ask calmly, does this make you happy?
• Refer to the frivolity, without attacking, that is: I love your verbal fluency.
• Say passively that you feel offended and that you need an apology.
• Always have sincerity with the other person.

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Learning activities for children based on assertive responses

Application of aikido. It allows children to learn to respond to others prudently.

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Within the martial arts there are some of attack and others of defense. Those that have to do with the defense, try to neutralize and unbalance the opponent, because if the opponent attacks and receives an answer in the same way, the impact can be brutal, but if you let it pass and you ignore it, with an action based in passivity, the opponent stumbles without force or attack being exerted on him, this being the positive response to his attack.

Normally people are silent and blocked from this type of situation, and try to find an intelligent answer to answer, but it is not necessary, it is necessary to simply ignore people and not spend energy on something that others do not understand. You can not lose control, because then the battle is lost.

Greetings educators and motivators of education.

@SteemitEducation

@Edu-Venezuela

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