Right-Brained Children Discriminated against by a Left-Brained School System

in education •  8 years ago  (edited)

Schools are designed for Left-Brained Learners, as are almost all homeschool curriculums.

(I know that the brain may not actually store personality traits on the right or left sides, but this is a term that is recognizable and we will use it to keep things simple.)
(p.s. the photo above is my husband and son in red)

Anyone with a child who struggles with schoolwork should spend some time on this website ↝ The Right Side of Normal. ↜

And if what you read there sounds anything like the way your child learns ...

... then you MUST buy Cindy Gaddis' e-book.

THE RIGHT SIDE OF NORMAL:

Understanding and Honoring the Natural Learning Path for Right-Brained Children

The way that I see it, right-brained children are DISCRIMINATED against in schools. To me it's not much different than racism or sexism and I won't send my children to that kind of an environment.

You see, right-brained children learn a different way, and learn things in a different order at different ages.


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One of the biggest differences is that a right-brained child does not naturally learn to read until between the ages of 8-10, unlike the left-brained child who will usually start reading between ages 5-7. And his writing and spelling skills will come around age 11-13.

Actually, in the case of my eldest child those skills came at the far end of the spectrum. This was predicted in the book, as my son falls into the category that she calls the "Builder/Lego" type. This type of child, especially when they are boys, will be the latest readers of all.

Cindy's observations in "The Right Side of Normal" have proven to be exactly true for my children!

The right-brained child will likely focus on science at a younger age, and Cindy explains how all of these things that the child is naturally learning first are the foundation that they need for the other skills like reading to develop properly later.

But all of this normal, natural development in right-brained children is NOT considered acceptable by the school system.

Homeschooling will not help the child either if the parents use a curriculum based on the same school system standards.

When the right-brain child resists the parents attempts to teach them in a "left-brained" manner, the parent becomes frustrated and thinks that homeschooling is a failure or too hard to force upon their child.

The author explains how our education system has a Left-Brained Value System

Our Left-Brained Value System

Most of us were mass (public) schooled, and most schools primarily utilize left-brained teaching methods, resources, and time frames. It’s human nature to repeat what we experience. In other words, what we know is what we believe to be true. So when we graduate from school, we’re inclined to give value to left-brained traits in educational settings.
That’s why we value the left-brained learning style of early memorization using short-term memory skills, part-to-whole scope and sequence formats of building upon the previous information, and symbolic skill development.
That’s why we value it all in a particular age time frame, too, beginning at the ages of 5 to 7. Any child who doesn’t function according to this supposed norm may receive academic learning labels.

Chapter 8 of "The Right-Side of Normal" is called:

Loves To Learn;
Hates To Be Taught

I quickly recognized my eldest child in that statement. If something that I am trying to teach my son lacks relevance to him, he won't put in the effort.

Resistance is also a way to express that something isn't working and they aren't able to learn this yet or by this method. Since children lack fully developed communication skills, they can't articulate the problem and instead they resist.

These children are not being bad -- they are being true to themselves and doing the best that they can.

My son has always LOVED to learn. He absorbs information like crazy if it is something that interests him. But trying to use a curriculum with my son was a problem. I tried a bit at Kindergarten age and quickly abandoned the attempt.

This is why I chose Unschooling.

If I hadn't chosen to unschool my son, I feel that we would have been constantly fighting and I would have been pulling my hair out. So it really was the logical and sensible conclusion for me.

In reality, I didn't choose unschooling ... unschooling chose me.

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I like that... unschooling chose you. I think that my stepson may fall under this category as well. I will have to do some digging into the topic. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Thanks. Yes, do some digging. There are lots of great books about unschooling out there, and lots of great websites.
But like I said, if you have a right-brained child, unschooling may be the only reasonable option -- both for your sanity and the child's sanity.

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Today's 'educational' system teaches little other than how to conform and comply- it singles out free thinkers and punishes them. That's because some very nefarious left brained beings run this planet and they fear free thinkers more than anything and they use the 'educational' system to identify free thinkers and crack down on them until they comply.

I've always been a rebel and I always will be- I saw how FUBAR the whole system was very early on in life- they knew with me that they had a mustang on their hands but try as they did- and boy did they try- they never broke this bronco.

The good news is I think within two years all of this will be exposed and the 'education' system as we know it will be thrown on the ash heap of history along with many other sadistic practices that have been convertly implemented for so very long.

The tables have turned and now it's the free thinkers that they couldn't beat down that will be calling the shots soon : )

We couldn't agree more. For a while, we were at a homeschool co-op in the states and they were just starting to introduce a mega online homeschooling curriculum. We tried it out and it was terrible for us as it was just another public school spin-off disguised as "homeschool". In fact, a teacher at the co-op said it basically was "public school at home". After 1 term we left the co-op and now live our own vision of what it really means to homeschool. We currently do a mix of different curriculum to fit our learning needs, and our creative project, Saturn Music & Entertainment, incorporates real world interaction as we learn. We take as much time as we need to fully learn and embrace an idea or topic or subject. We wish more people could see the benefits to homeschooling.

That's a great project that you have taken on! I took a quick peak at your website.
You should do a post on how you encourage children to step into the crypto-currency / blockchain world. I'ld like to know more about that.

Thank you very much! We homeschool year-round and now that our two children's books are complete, we are starting to draft up blogs on our experiences in the crypto world. Our parents have been involved in crypto tech and crypto currencies for a few years and my brother and I are now starting to understand how crypto tech is changing the world as we know it. We are currently learning about the Etheruem blockchain, smart contracts and new ways crypto tech is changing the way we use the internet. We are also exploring decentralized platforms to distribute our music and ebooks. Thank so much for your input! We'll definitely share more soon.

I really liked your post. My mother is a speech therapist. A few days ago I created an account for her and will soon be sharing her knowledge with us. She developed it over time and based on trial and error a technique to facilitate reading to left-handed children. I think this was already applied in some countries of the world but she was developing it without knowing it existed and in 35 years of profession. Her account is @patry and I think you will like her post. I hope you have a very good Sunday.

Thank-you @tincho. I will follow your mother.
Yes, there is a different method that works for the right-brained child. That's awesome that she has figured out a way to help.

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I am finding that your page is an excellent source of great posts. Not just your own, but Awesome job on the resteeming choices!

ah, thanks!

Yes -- thank-you. It is a great article.

Great post. Upvoted.
Yes I am a teacher and I can attest to this. It is all very left brain.
Even as a teacher (which is my profession at the moment) I would say: please homeschool!

Thank-you for your important insight as a teacher.
The % of people that I know who homeschool that are/were teachers themselves is higher than the general population. I think that a lot of teachers can see the problems with the education system better than most. My husband himself was a teacher, but only for a year before he couldn't stand it anymore.

I can imagine him quitting. I am always curious how long I can stand it before it happens to me.... haha.
Still... love being around the kids.

And of course... unschooling is also very important ;)

Unschooling definitely found its way into our lives after public school, online public school, and strictly curriculum based homeschooling left my son and I both incredibly frustrated and at a loss as to how to proceed. Our unschooling started as deschooling...just a period of doing nothing educational in order to restore our sanity. Then I realized, he is still learning. Around this time I learned about Sudbury schools and the more I read the more I felt an overwhelming sense of confirmation that unschooling was what we were meant to do. My son is now 9 and is crazy talented in all things tech and is currently writing his own video game!

Thank-you for sharing your wonderful success story!
It is awesome to hear.

Hm that actually makes a lot of sense; I didn't do so well at school, and when asked why (because apparently I do a reasonable impression of "smart") I always said it was because I didn't have the right kind of brain for it, maybe I wasn't making stuff up after all XD

We're doing the unschooling thing too though I tend to just refer to it !schooling when I can get away with it because the labels with very precise definitions other people were engaging in annoyed me.

If something that I am trying to teach my son lacks relevance to him, he won't put in the effort.

My boys exactly! My girl will put in the effort but not without letting me know in no uncertain terms that it's hard and boring and she hates it XD But we usually manage to work things out.

There is more to it than you know! That is not an impression of smart, it's the real thing. Schools are not very good at judging most forms of intelligence.

It's good to see that you can relate and that you are unschooling too. Your children are fortunate.

Wow, this is the kind of article I'm really interested in! It's one of my areas of expertise although I come at it from a more intuitive, spiritual angle.

I believe I must have been one of those children, like yours, who are "Right Brain" dominant.

If something that I am trying to teach my son lacks relevance to him, he won't put in the effort.
Resistance is also a way to express that something isn't working and they aren't able to learn this yet or by this method.

This was me to a T. All my teachers went on and on about how intelligent I was and yet my grades were really low despite putting hours and hours into a studying. I spent two years shopping for mental and emotional disorders and found a few shoes that fit. I made it into college on my essay and interview alone. Luckily in my third year I had a teacher who understood that I was basically just a salt water fish in fresh water and he explained that I needed to find an interest point in everything that I studied otherwise I would always do poorly because unlike other students, I couldn't force myself to care just for the grade itself. My grades went from C-'s to A's in my last year.

There is more going on than just the left/right brain, but it's important to look at it from this angle. Thank you so much for your articles. I hope to read more about how you raise your kids. One reason I am holding off on having any is because I am trying to create the right environment first, public/private schools are not the right environment as far as I am concerned.

I plan on writing about this experience in the future.

Thanks for sharing your experience! It really verifies what I have said above and what she outlines in "The Right Side of Normal."
I am left-brained and you are right brained.
Once, a new and dear friend of mine explained how excited that she was to have met me, because we had both made so many of the same alternative decisions in life, but she had done it based on intuitiveness without quite understanding how to explain it to others. And I would ramble on for hours to her quoting all the scientific and research reasons for why I had chosen the same things. She said it really felt good to know that what had seemed to others at least to be somewhat crazy decisions on her part, were actually supported by lots of evidence as well.
I'm a researcher by nature.
But your intuitive/spiritual side will probably agree with real science much of the time.

I've had that experience as well with friends! I am most definitely an experiential learner. I learn not only from my own experience but the experience of others. It's actually not much different from science but it's much more fluid as (you probably know) we don't like rules or rigid structure. Many people have made the case that this way of exploring the world is less reliable, but I think that depends on a persons ability to admit that they might be wrong, so a kind of agnostic approach is important.

I find it easy to explain my thoughts to others but it usually requires a lot of metaphors and sometimes a little faith. This can sometimes make it difficult to deal with certain left-brained people who think they're way of seeing the world is somehow better because it IS more easily verifiable.

But I love open-minded scientists! They help me prove a lot of what I knew to be true before I had proof to cite :-D Hopefully I can provide them with sparks of inspiration for their research.

Thank you for this remarkably personally encouraging article!

Although via public school I did learn to read at an earlier age than your article suggests, I am very definitely a "right-brain" person. For the most part I absolutely hated school. But I loved to read, and all my life I've delighted in learning whatever interests or motivates me at the time.

I have had the "reverse problem" of struggling to relate to my children and grandchildren and my spouse, who all somehow seem to be left-brained.

For the most part, I've learned to relax and let the differences go, but I've long felt misunderstood and marginalized. And so, Thank You for writing this because it has encouraged me today. :D

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@creatr

I am very glad that I gave you a bit of encouragement today.
Thank-you for your wonderful comment.

I didn't fit for any of this. I'm left handed, but could read by four. My earliest memory is at eighteen months. No one knew what to do with me. I ended up alternating between the genius and remedial classes. It was better if I was just left alone in the library. I suspect that most children would flourish if left to their own devices with minimal direction. 3,4,and 5 year olds have amazing powers of observation, and problem solving. Schooling often destroys these abilities first, before moving on to flatten out everything else. I would agree with your post, except to say that all children who undergo public schooling end up at a disadvantage, but the left brained thinkers take to the indoctrination more readily.

... and there are always some children that don't fall into a neat category.
Thanks for sharing your story.
I do agree that unschooling is better for all children.
It's just that it is extra detrimental to the right-brained.

It certainly does less than nothing to help them. I know that for a fact. I think I was actually lucky that I moved around so much that continuity of indoctrination was disrupted. I could see the other kids progressively turning into robots. I was young and didn't know what I was looking at, at the time, but that's what it was. The left handed, usually right brained, were usually treated as handicapped, mentally and physically.

exactly -- thanks for explaining that.
I would not want my children to ever go through that -- feeling handicapped when in fact they are COMPLETELY NORMAL!
To me it's like feeling deficient because of the color of your skin when that is simply one of many marvelous variations of human-kind.

Variety is the spice.

A friend of mine was born situs inversus, which means that his body is the mirror image of the common human, with heart and stomach on his right, and he didn't discover it until he got appendicitis, on his left side.

So he is left handed, but equivalent to left brained but for him it's the right, but he's also high functioning Asperger's so he doesn't fit for other reasons too. Come to think of it, that's most of the people I know. Some were more damaged by school than others.

I went through a very difficult time with the cookie cut school system. Good article!

thank-you @kus-knee
one-size-fits-all is not a good way to educate children that's for sure.

What a informative post. I see this in a couple of my grandchildren. Once again you have hit the ball out of the park providing positive insight as to how we can change the world in a positive manner.

Thanks Mary!
There are so many things to discover when you start looking and thinking out-of-the-box!

When I was Denmark (doing my master's and learning the language), I remember visiting the Rudolf Steiner school in Odense where I met with some of the kids and learned about this alternative system of education. Wow, I was surprised to see so many talented and creative kids who, at the early age of 12-13, had already found their passion. One of them said that he will become a piano player, another one a physicist, a third one - a painter... They have been given the opportunity to learn and focus on what interests them.
Do you have such schools in Canada?
Thank you for sharing this, Linda! :)

There are not schools like that that I know of. Although I have heard of one 'outdoors' school about 1.5 hours away, where they go out in nature every single day.

My son already knew at age 9 that he would be an electrician. And I had electricians tell me after meeting him, that he already knew the stuff they only learned in Trades School. My husband is a jack of all trades, but electricity is not something he knows or is comfortable with. But that's what my son gravitated to, and he learned tons and tons from "Google University."
Yes, it is wonderful to see young children already with a passion like that.

I am glad to hear that your son has a passion, which he wants to pursue :) And yes, one can learn pretty much everything on the internet.

This is eye-wakening. We all know children learn in different ways, but I never knew there was a left-brain and right-brain learning. Since you do not follow curriculum from the school to do homeschooling do you choose what to teach your children? I hope this doesnt come off as a wrong question, i am truly interested in how it works. Therea re many things taught in school that are not useful and children shouldnt need to know. While there are things that they should be taught, but arent. I think its wonderful you chose, or rather, unschooling chose you. We do what we feel is best for our families and that is all that matters.

Thank-you -- I am glad that you found it interesting.
I will make suggestions to the children, saying that it might be a good idea to learn such-and-such ... but they decide if it interests them. My husband is really good at getting them involved in cooking with them or working on house fixing projects together.
It is interest-based learning. And they learn through just living life. For instance, every time a technician of some type comes to our home (alarm company, plumber, appliance repair, etc) my son stays very close by and observes them, asks questions and helps them in any way that he can. I'm pretty sure that he will be a tradesman someday, and he is getting a good look now at what that is like and what his options are.

Thank you for getting back to me and explaining it to me. That just makes so much more sense! Doing daily things is all they should really learn anyways...they are not going to use the obtuse of a triangle, or have to know what kind of nouns exist etc. At the end kids will do what they are interested in anyway, so why not help them with it. Thats great!

Right. Plus I've heard so many stories of how when I child finds there is a need to do some of the more "schoolish" things to accomplish a goal of theirs, that they buckle down and learn it very, very quickly. Perhaps learning in weeks/months what other kids in school took 2 or 3 years to learn. So if they need it to accomplish something that they desire, they will just do it.

I'm right brained, didn't take to reading until 5th grade, finally taught myself and math...omg 🙃

Yup! You are NORMAL! Did school make you feel inadequate or deficient?

I think that all children (unless they are truly brain-injured) would learn to read in time, even with no instruction, if they have books available. Especially in this day and age of computers!
You hear about children going to school and still not being able to read at graduation -- and I think that is because they were told that they couldn't do it and felt stupid, and they believed it and gave up. They were pushed too early.

A good friend of mine was the same as you -- didn't read until she was 11. She thought that she finally learned how to read because her mom was working with her so hard. I told her that it was probably just time -- it would have clicked in at that age whether or not anyone had taught her.

My teachers were awful except my high school art teacher Mr Brown. He let me lead! I loved him ...such a good person. The way public schools teach kids is for one type of cognitive abilities. My abilities do not fit into the industrial or post industrial world. Well maybe they do now, robots are not creative....but I refused to compete which landed me in a dunce hat sitting in the corner of a class room. I hated tests, I hated competing, I hated school.

I'm serious, the way the teachers taught me was like they spoke jibberish, their lesson plans made no sense to me.

That is heartbreaking to hear that they actually treat children that way and make them feel that way. It is important to share these stories, so thank-you.

I was beaten for trivial mistakes as well. By the age of 10 years I figured out humans were crazy and mean hearted. Unfortunately I became that way too, only for a time, in my early 30s I walked away from crazy and mean conditioning. In a way, without this suffering I would of never looked for a way to let go of all the trauma I suffered.

But our school system isn't about learning, it's about controlling the unwashed masses.

What a timing!!! I posted something similar few minutes ago ,not much detailed as yours ..now i want to resteem your post... cheers 🍻

I had a daughter 25 years ago with ADHD, ODD and Aspergers, we had to fight for help the whole way through her schooling, things haven't changed for the better.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that things are even worse in most cases.
Thanks for your comment!

Your welcomr :)

Thank you for sharing, reading this gives us confidence in what we are doing for our family.
In Sweden you are not allowed to home school and at the end of this year they want our 6yrs old to start school, this means we will have to leave Sweden if we want to keep our child, we have heard stories of children being taken from their parents at the airport as they attempt to leave the country.

I'm glad that I have helped give the confidence. It's terribly sad that you must leave your country to do the right thing by your child, but koodos to you for putting your children first!
Where might you move? I've heard that the Finland school system is the best in the world ... although I still believe that I would homeschool if I was living there.

Yeah it's a shame we really like Sweden, apart from the none homeschooling rule it's a lovely country to live in, with a very high standard of living. But we want to start an eco-community anyway and this might not work in Sweden so it kind of gives us an incentive to leave for good and get this community going in Portugal.

Great stuff. I need to pass this on outside of Steemit.

Thank-you. I appreciate that.
Yes, more people need to be aware of this info.

I've only been on this platform for a couple of weeks but I'm loving it! Unlike FaceBook where people generally share cute puppy pictures or some other wast-of-time junk, I'm actually learning things here. I'm super excited about where this will go. Thanks for your valuable contribution!

I know, there is so much to learn! Steemit can really expand one's mind.
You are very welcome!

My 10 year old sounds EXACTLY the same as your son! It is mind-boggling! We too are looking at alternatives for our son as he does not "fit" in the school mould. Although he does relatively well, its as if I see a piece of him dying every day (I know it sounds dramatic, but I really seems like it). The only time he is happy (and his face beams) is when we are doing experiments, drawing, painting or googling about history and more science experiments. This has definitely been an eye-opener for me. Thanks for posting!

I am so glad that this information may have helped you find a solution for your son.
It sounds like the two of you might do well if you used this method of homeschooling/unschooling.
http://project-based-homeschooling.com/books
"Project Based Homeschooling"
You should read it and see if it resonates with you.

This was really well done, in fact reading through the comment section makes it obvious that you couldn't have presented this better. I LOVE how people are saying they should look into it, how it made them think about their own children's struggles and why they might be having them.

Yes, the comments are the best! This article has impacted so many people and that is so rewarding to see that I have helped a bit in putting the puzzle together for them.

There really is no better feeling then when you put the thoughts of your heart out in the world and it's rewarded by helping others!

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i have a brother left handed :) i will share to him this info
i follow you and upvoted
please when you can visit my blogs my friend :)

Left-handed usually means right-brained,
but not all right-brained are left handed.
Thanks for your comment!

ah ok thanks

Excellent post. Nice to see another Canadian doing well on Steemit. :)

Thanks! There are quite a few of us Canucks on here!

I always felt schools were never geared towards actually teaching anything of real substance besides the basics (english, math, science). Where are the economics classes? Arguably one of most important systems in life (money) is not even mentioned in most schools!!

I agree that the school system is not great for left-brainers either.
Like I said in the article, some people see homeschooling as the solution to a failing school system, so they choose a curriculum to homeschool with. That might work with a left-brainer, but will still fail the right-brained child.
Although I think that unschooling is the best option for all children, as every child is unique.

It is not good Steemit etiquette to ask for upvotes and follows in a comment.
Next time leave a comment that indicates you read the article.

Oh right just easy for me as I'm dislexic but thanks any way for the kind information

ok. I know that it's a big learning curve for newcomers. All the best!

Waaaw ,,,, your research is very useful for me, yes as a parent we have to know how far the development of our children, how to think, the extent to which our children use the right brain and left. This is very influential on the development of the child. I am also a teacher and also a father. By reading your article @ canadian-coconut, my mind is open about the world of children. Very mad for me ...... !!! hopefully more information from you. Now I have followed you @ canadian-coconut. Me @ munawar1

some more, I would like to know what the criteria and basis of this classification are.

It takes a lot of explanation to understand everything, that is why I recommend buying the e-book "The Right Side of Normal" to get an in-depth understanding.
But perhaps I will still write more about some other aspects of it.

Nice post..
Upvote and Resteem.!!

wow... You sure like to Resteem...
Just stopping by to thank you for the
Upvote you left me the other day...
@pocketechange

I remember being a student and feeling frustrated with everything. We had a test to see who was right-brained and who was left brained. Guess what? Me and one other guy were the only right brained people out of 40 students in the class. The other guy who was right-brained was into theater and acting, and everything suddenly made sense to me.

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Have you noticed that all skill testing questions on contests in Canada are math based?

thank you @canadian-coconut Education Children Make the character of a child like water, anyone, anything, and until whenever will continue to be needed

I think the key point is that whether the education is suitable for most of the children...

Interesting. As mom of a 9 month old I'm wondering how early you can identify if your child is left or right? Can it change in early years?

I've been reading a couple of your posts before over @tarazkp shoulder and just joined Steemit myself. :)

It might not become clear until you start trying to teach them school-type lessons, or send them to Kindergarten.

Okay. Thanks for the reply. I'll keep my eye out just in case. ;)

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